Time...a Facebook Post

Kat Aburto
about a minute ago near Salinas, CA

Time…it’s a slippery, sneaky thing; tomorrow will be 6 months…no. It can’t be. Half of a year. It seems like yesterday, we were making plans, setting goals; seeing some light at the end of the tunnel…and then the unimaginable happened. I still can’t wrap my mind around it, much less my heart. Sometimes I think he’s just upstairs, or out in the garage…tinkering, painting, watching over the neighborhood…then I blink and those thoughts fall to the ground in pieces. How I have survived this, I don’t know. I know that even though I don’t really accept this life…yet; I must continue…I know he would want me to be happy and not be swallowed up as I am some days. I know this is normal…abnormal normal.

I am trying, Honey…it’s so very hard without your bigger-than-life presence here; I miss your care, your funny ways, your artistry, your unique view of the world; you greeting me every night as I come home…you bringing me tea and cookies (even though I said I didn’t want cookies) tucking the blankets around me and watching Big Bang together. I have watched only 3 shows since Sept. Your TV doesn’t like me. You were the only one who could figure out those remotes and adjust the antenna just right. But it’s no fun without you. I miss you immeasurably…I love you endlessly.

Your Kat — feeling down.

Time...a Facebook Post


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I wrote this on my Facebook page to commemorate a sad date. Today is the 6 month anniversary (not quite the right term, but I can’t think of anything else) of the last day my Reynaldo had…we had; stripped away from us by slight of hand, a slip of the scalpel, a blunder, a clumsy mistake…we would never recover; He never woke up…I wake up every day since then to a living nightmare. I have joined the sisterhood of the widowed; a sorority that I had no idea existed…until now. This experience has made me grieve not only for Rey, but also has reawakened my grief for Mom; understanding only now…how much she suffered when Daddy died in ’07; enduring four years alone; without the love of her life, married 56 years…I tried to console her and be there for her; little did I know the depth of sorrow that losing your “Other Half” brings. I know now it was small comfort…even the best of intentions and even love…falls dismally short of the power of that relationship; now lost to you in death. I can only hope and pray that life on the “other side” is as beautiful as you both imagined it would be.

I love and miss you more than words can express, or thoughts can comprehend…
RIP Daddy, Mommy and Rey ~ Cathy Aburto ~

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