Lilith and Relationship Equality
There are many stories that we hear. Some we believe others we don’t. However I believe we can learn from everything that comes to our minds. The Bible talks of The Garden of Eden and Adam and Eve. Perhaps this is a true story or perhaps it is a story from someone’s imagination.
There is another story that is gaining some interest and it is the story of Lilith. The story claims that Lilith was the first created woman and like Adam she was formed from the soil. That she quiet naturally thought of herself as Adam’s equal and demanded of Adam to treat her as such.
However Adam didn’t see Lilith as an equal and in sexual intimacy demanded Lilith to take the lower or subservient position. Lilith was outraged at this and would not allow herself to be controlled by Adam. This then caused Adam to complain to God that Lilith was evil and dangerous. Lilith fled the Garden of Eden and was never to return.
The story goes that God then created a subservient woman in Eve and that Lilith coupled with Devils and created evil children. I believe that this story can teach us much about modern day life. That we can further build on this story to create a positive message for mankind.
I believe that all people are equal in their hearts and souls..that material life can create rankings and status but that in ultimate reality it is all an illusion. For most of humanity we have judged according to gender, race, material wealth etc. However true peace and joy comes from no judgement and no competition fears.
I feel that our lives today are especially tainted with how we view women. I believe that many men fear women and in their fear try to control them. They attempt to act in ways that project superiority over the females in their lives. I believe lust and sexuality are perfect examples of this fear.
However I believe whenever any person attempts to control another or put themselves above another they don’t feel full passion for life. I believe that at a deep level the Lilith character knew of this rule of life and energy. That she knew Adam would not feel God fully by dominating another person.
A truly peaceful and powerful person is one who surrenders control of life. Who respects all of life from plants to animals to other people. This person receives energy and beauty from all things in his/her life and is in harmony with him/herself and God.
Why would any man want to be with a woman who he needs to control or exert superiority over??? Surely the best union of any two people is where they both respect each other fully. Where they can give each other total freedom as they trust each other equally and perfectly.
Even in sexual intimacy this rule applies. Once a couple surrender any need to control the encounter or each other true bliss is achieved. In surrendering their mind’s control they allow their heart’s energy to direct the encounter. To give and receive pleasure equally. Could it be that Lilith could see far into the future and that modern society needs to believe in Lilith more than in Eve???
I am hopeful at least in a small way that this website will continue with the message of Lilith. It is my intention that the models depicted in our galleries will project an image of style passion and grace..that their eyes will speak the truth that they are secure and empowered women who value everyone but need no one.
taken from the philosophy section of my website www.bodylinecal.com
Journal Comments
I think the story of Lillith says a lot about the church really…
A free thinking independant woman who consideres herself the equal of men is portrayed as evil.
Says it all really.
Church = degradation of women.
Hi Byron,
Tend to agree re the church although I am sure that there are still some great individuals within them. I think these days that both sexes are lacking empowerment. Men seem to want to possess and women seem colder than they have ever been probably as a reaction to men’s attempts to control them.
i agree with your line of thought tony.. but here’s my twist… being a gay man i see the same struggle for posession and control in the homosexual perspective…. so is it truly a sexual concern…or at it’s basest level is it more of a tale of the human condition…………b
Hi Butch,
I have written it as a hetrosexual piece but truly agree with you that it is a people problem. I believe somewhere we forgot that true joy is from equality and freedom not domination and control. This extends to all human interaction from parent/child through all of our other associations even with animals and nature.
agreed
I think you are the first male, that I’ve read mentioning Lilith, her strength and the energies related to her archetype – THANK YOU ;)
I am very very passionate about the Lilith story. I so believe that she is so important to where humans are presently at. That if we honour her message and energy that we can attain peace and joy.
Most definitely, the sacred feminine within us all, gives us the power to face challenges with strength, courage and clarity – guiding and protecting us every step of the way – SHE/LILITH brings us into alignment with personal power and Universal laws and truths…
Good to meet you Tony ;)
oh tony tony tony. little did i expect when i opened my bubble mailbox that i would be so graciously loved and respected there. thank you deeply.
i was introduced to lillith several months ago by a woman astrologer who told me that i have to master the lillith in myself before i can meet an equal partner. it is the work of all women to step up to meet themselves with complete respect for their own masculine and feminine and quit looking outward for this from a man or partner playing that role. this is a beginning when we can talk about it. then we can begin to work together in order to see the change we want. …..SIMPLE RESPECT AND EQUALITY.
aloha.
So like what your astrologer friend said about finding Lilith first prior to meeting an equal partner. Really love the Lilith energy and am working so deeply myself to prepare myself to meet my Lilith.
lucky lillith….one day…once upon a time. i am just happy to know of a man who knows of and cares to work with this important piece of US. thanks, ryan, for existing!!
I find it impossible to believe that the bible has survived so long without any manipulation by human kind… so I find it impossible to put my complete trust and faith into it.
However I find it easy and natural to put my trust and faith in God, Nature and in the soul and heart of the person that was Jesus. My faith is in the representation of the positive and loving human being that was Jesus.
I agree that we all need to start looking at equality in all things…sexes, races, religions, environment…. everywhere! And big change in the world only comes from being made aware of these things… talking… debating and having it in our thoughts so it slowly begins to become part of our beliefs and way of thinking. So what I like about the Lillith story and in you Tony… is that all this will generate thought and talk of equality between men and woman… if not in everything …. and that is a wonderful thing.
Thank You Tony.
Pip :)
Hi Pip,
Thanks for your words on this piece. I very much agree with your sentiments. I really believe that each person has the best gospel inside their own hearts. Deep inside we do I believe have direct communication with God, Jesus, nature and each other. We just have to prioritise going deep rather than following society peer pressures and expectations.
Best Wishes Tony.
Thanks very much for the feature Ushna. Hope you are well.
Hi Tony, I’m so blown away by your message here. I was very conditioned as a youngster that I HAD to find a partner that did everything for me….it really went against my grain in a big way and I don’t know why. It is very hard to de-programme oneself from the “Cinderella Syndrome” After many years alone I have come to realise that I first and foremost need to be the Lillith that you describe so beautifully, before I can be anything to anyone else. I work on this every day and after reading this I really think that becoming Lillith deserves my heart and soul. Thank you so much for your beautiful and inspiring words!!!
Thanks so much for sharing your words with me. I love Lilith and what she stands for. I too am realising how my soul mate joy will only be fully respected once I am secure within myself. I believe that for any of us to truly love another with full freedom that need must be understood and pacified.