What's lurking behind your thoughts?

It’s easy to convince ourselves that it’s us alone against the world. I should know it’s something I believed for years. It was a belief that gave me strength and courage to get through painful experiences. The problem about that sort of belief is that it’s not biased, so it get’s you through pain and also through happier times. So, if we look at what that belief says about happy times we get “ you’re happier on your own” and I thought it was true. Even in relationships that belief was there. So when my view of a situation or circumstance made me feel a negative emotion I would hear that mantra “You’re better on your own”. Look you tried, it but it didn’t work because you’re better on your own.

This is where it’s important to say that when you don’t know your thoughts aren’t who you are, they’re just a small part of you that says stuff based on your past and also on the belief we’re not connected. It’s only through learning that we change! I now realise that although I could find evidence for that belief, it was only bringing the opposite of what I actually wanted and that if I had the belief that I was safe and secure in relationships and could trust not only myself but other people then I would be happier. A belief like that could get me what I craved.

I use images to illustrate feelings, thoughts and behaviours. I’ve imagined myself as the armour clad, strong courageous woman who can deal with any situation life throws at her and is happy parading off alone and now the softer, armour removed light filled woman who trusts she has all she needs. If she needs protection then that is available, but also openness to people she meets and above all love and respect for who they are.

I can see my learnings plain as day, the consequences or the belief I had and what I can create with a new one.

Is there a belief you have that is written in concrete in your mind? What is it? Write it down on paper and for a moment turn down the volume on the voice that sounds like you, when it says “Yes but it’s true.”

Write down the opposite of your belief… and for the next few days keep this one close and read it often. Notice the new thoughts that appear. Write these down, ask yourself if this new belief could give you what you want and are you prepared to try it. What have you got to lose? If the old belief that limited you brought you exactly what you thought you wanted, maybe this empowering one will too.

The interesting thing I noticed was that my old belief was giving me the opposite of what I really wanted. It seems obvious now that in order to get the fairy tale then I had to believe in it. The simple truths in life are that simple and clear and easy to grasp. We tend to dismiss these and make our lives much more complicated than they need to be.

Write and tell me the old belief you had, what it brought you and the new belief you’re trying on for size! It’s like getting a whole new wardrobe!

What's lurking behind your thoughts?

Fay Hartwell

Joined August 2008

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