Ellen Cotton

Fremont, CA, United States

Being in my 60s I am a latecomer to photography. Yet I have found great satisfaction and pleasure in creating digital art from my...

Letter to Our Adopted Son

I wrote this letter to my son a few weeks ago, triggered by a homework assignment he had in Psychology. I just wanted to share part of it. He is going through a rough time being rejected by most of his peers (he has mild autism). The transition to adulthood is not an easy one.

Dear Son,
Being adopted as our son means that we made a conscious decision to have you in our lives and we went through many challenges to make it happen. When we finally brought you home, it was the happiest day of our lives! In other words – we both love you more than words could ever express and nothing will ever change that.
All parents have hopes and dreams for their children and we are no exception. More than anything, we want you to have a happy life. Parents always hope that their children will be able to avoid the mistakes that they made and that is why they sometimes get carried away with their rules and expectations. We are trying our best to be reasonable, even if it doesn’t seem that way sometimes!
The biggest question really is – what makes a happy life? From our perspective of sixty years of living, the most important ingredient is to have dreams and goals and to never give up on them. If, in early 1993, we had given in to despair when the social worker told us our chances of adopting a baby were very slim, we would not have you in our lives now. If you are determined, anything is possible.
The other very important aspect of happiness is caring for others. That sounds simple and obvious, but it is not always so easy. We all experience times in our lives when we feel alone – no family or friends to give us comfort or simply companionship. However, if you make a conscious effort to comfort, support and spend time with others in need, then you will never be alone.
Finally, we want you to always remember that we are very proud of you. Everyone has problems and challenges to overcome – perhaps you’ve had a few more than the average 17 year old. But you have come through with grace and humour, and we know you will continue to succeed in whatever you choose to do.

With much love,
Mom & Dad

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