Riddle Me This

Are we as humans so accustomed to pain that it has become the norm?
Speaking on the phone to a friend recently, she was explaining how the start of a relationship with this great guy doesn’t compare to the infatuation she felt towards another who abused her respect by womanising her. It is interesting to see how we as humans measure our torment as a formula for how much we like someone. We must feel tormented to know we like them.
I explained to my friend that as long as there was an existing crush to begin with (a.k.a. “The Spark”) with the new guy, there is no need to worry. Relationships don’t remain in the “Phase One: Giddy-Crush” stage. She assumed that because her feelings had become more comfortable, that she might not like him as much as the other.
From my own experiences, I believe that you can like someone new just as much as your previous crush or partner. I believe that people seem to mistake the level and length of their love-suffering to actual likeness. In other words, just because you haven’t experienced the same pain of one crush for the amount of time you did another doesn’t mean that you couldn’t have liked them both equally.
When people are in agonising obsession for someone that is currently unobtainable, they confuse that love to being better than the love that in comfortable, satisfied and constantly growing with that other person in a relationship.
Its funny how we can be so use to the suffering that it becomes worrying when it isn’t there or as strong anymore. Why is it that we begin to “freak-out” when things finally begin to go in our favour? Suffering has become something that we are more used to than not suffering for someone.
Maybe suffering is an essential part of Existence and our psyche… Is desiring the ideal far better than living it?- OR- are we supposed to wake up to ourselves and realise that we do deserve more and should finally accept something wonderful when it is happening?

Danielle Sophia Raffaele

Riddle Me This

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