A Pair of Shoes

Yesterday I faced another milestone in my journey without Axel.

I attended a funeral. Not just any funeral, but one of a baby girl who never got to take her first breath.

Axel now has another friend to join him on his journey …her name is Imogene Kate.

The funeral was held at the same place we held Axel’s. There were many stunned faces when I walked into the group of people…many said that I was brave and strong to be there. But I didn’t feel brave and strong, it was something I just had to do…there are so many difficult things every single day in my life without Axel, this was just one more.

At the funeral the Grandmother read out the following poem…I wanted to share it with you as it sums up exactly how I feel about losing my son.

A Pair of Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don’t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

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