The IVF Baby
For our little miracle baby. She was well worth the wait!!!
IVF is an emotional journey and a true test of your love and commitment.
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All Things Poetic, Artistic, Philosophical, Beginner's Expressions, Birth and Maternity, Childhood, Live, Love, Dream: , Moms 4 Art, The true beauty, Two Beings Group and WMGThere once was a girl named Alyssa
She was made in a petri dish
Her parents were oh so happy
They finally had gotten their wish
It took six long years of trying
Futile sometimes it did seem
But with help from medical technology
They finally had gotten their dream
After ultrasounds and blood tests
And thirty-three self injections
The hormones all worked together
And made all the right connections
Eleven eggs were retrieved
Only ten mature for use
Nine accepted the sperm
Of those, how many would we lose?
After three long days of waiting
The big day finally came
Six little embryo’s remained
But only one was marked for fame
Two were put back in
That sunny winter’s day
And as we left for home
We knew we were on our way
The two week wait was long
Each day was hard to take
But as the line turned blue, we knew
A family we did make
Tony Ryan
Hi Zandria,
Thanks for sharing your story and congratulations. For so many of us having children is the ultimate joy and perhaps purpose in life. Further for many who find it difficult it becomes an emotional roller coaster.
My parents found it hard to conceive and I am an only child. Whilst they cherished me more than could be imagined they also seemed to place their own hopes and dreams and joy in my hands.Over my life this pressure was enormous and for the most part I had no idea. In fact it has only been of recent years that my parents have realised the dependancy they had upon me.
I think it is wonderful to have children and for that matter partners that we cherish and love. However I think it is even more important to not be depednant upon any external including a child for our own joy. Only when we lose the fear of loss do we really allow others and ourselves to feel love in my opinion.
zandria replied
Hi Tony.
Thanks for the read and the comment. Going through IVF was an emotional journey, but it really did make us stronger as a couple and help us realize how precious a new life can be.
I am sorry you felt such enormous pressure growing up. I am sure your parents never meant to place that burden on you.
I believe also that you make your own happiness and you must deal with whatever life has to offer you…good and bad. No, external dependency isn’t what gives you joy, but it can add to your overall fulfillment.
I am blessed with both a fantastic husband and a beautiful daughter. They are my joy. And of course I want the best for them both but I know we all have own own hopes and dreams. And I will support her as she finds her own joy in life.
I hope I never lose the fear of loss as I believe there is no joy in life unless you have something to lose.
Thanks again for the read and comment.
girlinthestars
oh my goodness! so cute! wow, you are a strong woman having gone through all that and the waiting too…i can not imagine! I am so glad it all worked out and you have your beautiful daughter! such a great poem!~*
zandria replied
Thanks so much girlinthestars!
Infertility was a very difficult time in our lives but I wouldn’t change it for anything. It brought us to where we are now, and it is a great place to be!!! It really did make us a stronger couple as we supported each other through the hard days. And the awe we feel now with our daughter is amazing. She truly is our little miracle and such a blessing to be around. I know you understand that feeling. :)
All children are a blessing, no matter how they are conceived, and should be cherished and loved in all their individuality.
Tony Ryan
Thanks Zandria,
I do not feel sorry for having had the pressure as I was growing up. As you say my parents like many of us were not aware of the pressure they placed on me. I was of course confused and hurt at the time but bgelieve I have a stronger child parent relationship than most now we are working through things at a deeper level. I have also learnt that I am most blessed when I embrace all of life with the passion I embrace my loved ones.
Really interesting last line. I have never thought of dependancy on externals that way. I suppose the way I see it the only thing we should fear losing is our connection to our own true self. I do still fear loss of my parents and other loved ones but truly do not feel I am giving them complete love whilst I am fearing their loss. To me love is about the appreciation of beauty rather than the possession. Thanks for sharing however as you have inspired me to think further into this aspect of life.
Best Wishes Tony.