Have you ever watched a young person die?

Have you ever watched a young person die?
Watched them go by inches?
Way before their time?

Well I’m telling you
it does your head in
cos you just can’t rationalize it away

Your brain can’t file it
it just keeps going and going at it
like a shark
on a whale carcass

Usually we file grief
with the thinking
she’s had a good life…
she’s fulfilled her dreams…
she died quickly, it’s a mercy…
she was surrounded by those she loved…

and that golden oldie
time will heal…

But not at 6, 12, 27, 43, 52, 63
.

Its not about the death
its about the natural order
it’s about a life expectancy unfulfilled
it’s about marriages
and babies
and parties
and love

It’s about being robbed
and broken dreams

See parents expect their kids
to outlive them
partners make plans for combined futures
friends grow lives, with friends
and when death breaks
the natural order of things
It does your head in

as well as your heart

There’s just no rationalizing it away
Time doesn’t heal
there is no timeline for emotions

Go on play that song
you know you want to
the one you heard at your first heartbreak?
You’re 16 again
am I right?
in a nano

No time doesn’t heal jack shit
you’re just learning to live
with a broken bit

have you ever watched a young person die?
I have and it sucks…

© wildwomenlove poetry
20.03.10

Have you ever watched a young person die?

wildwomenlove

ADELAIDE, Australia

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*I wrote this is a few weeks ago, when I was reflecting on grief and loss, and the processing of it all…and I got to thinking about how people who haven’t experienced loss yet, often make the remarks about ‘how you’ll get over it’ or ‘time will heal’ or something, requiring you to fix yourself up, as quickly as possible, so they don’t have to look at your sorry state anymore, cos it’s making them uncomfortable. Best thing to do is say I love you and make a cup of tea…nothing more…
I’ve been aware from the age of 7, of the people I love dying around me , but the young ones, the young ones…they’re a whole other story…my best friend died at 27…it’s a process, that’s for sure.

Western society deals with grief and death in a ‘just get over it’ kind of way, trying to ignore the process and the inevitability of it all, while at the same time encouraging everyone to stay as young as possible, trying to avoid it…plastic surgery…
Hope I don’t make you sad…it’s just reflection on my own process…and me attempting to learn from it, and to share with others…I’ve resolved the grief enough that I’m not wounded anymore, just reflecting…*

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