In May of 2008, my husband, Homer, traveled back to Vietnam on a journey of healing and forgiveness. During one of his two combat missions to Vietnam in the sixties, Homer killed a young North Vietnamese Medic, Hoang Ngoc Dam. This act has haunted Homer for over 35 years as the battles of war haunt all who experience it. Dam’s family, in an act of incredible generosity of spirit, invited Homer to Vietnam to meet them and personally participate in the return of Dam’s remains to his village for burial. You can read the entire story, one of heartbreak, courage, and forgiveness on Homer’s website: http://www.swampfox.info.
This photograph was taken by Homer on an early morning train from Nam Dinh to Quy Nhuon.
“Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another’s control… to be locked into a sequence of act and response, of outrage and revenge, tit for tat, escalating always. The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare.” – Lance Morrow