Miscommunicating On The Internet
Here is one way to miscommunicate online.
Several weeks ago, I was chatting with a young man who had moved to the States from Dublin, Ireland. He lives on the East Coast, and works as a server in a restaurant. Our conversations centered on Ireland, the history, and the mythology. He stated that he was from a noble heritage, and was very proud of it, indeed.
I noticed that he commented frequently on African-American young ladies. Whilst this is not an issue with me, I asked him if he was going marry an Irish lass and have a family. I recounted to him the experiences my cousin (whose own father was a Mexican), had after marrying an African-American man, and having five children.
Each of the children had issues with their heritage, not knowing which one to claim, not really sure of who they were. The eldest, a male, left the States when he turned eighteen years old to travel Europe. He stated that he was going to find himself. The girls, four of them, beauties that they were, ended up not finishing school, and two of them had babes of their own before the age of eighteen. I am not saying this was as a result of the interracial marriage. I have seen many where the children were highly successful.
I also told him that my first sister-in-law was Polynesian, and that my nephew lived on the Islands. To be perfectly clear with him, I told him that I lived in a glass house, and that I was not throwing stones.
I am totally non-biased, non-racist, and truly love everyone I come across.
He immediately flew into a rage, proclaimed me racist, and told me I sounded like I was from the Third Reich. Gosh, I was flabbergasted. I could not imagine being labled thus. I apologized to him for the offense, and told him that he should do as he wished.
No more conversations, no more contact, in fact he blocked me from any contact with him. Well, having only ‘known’ him for a few weeks, and that online, I was not totally disappointed. There are plenty of people to ‘meet’ online and develop friendships with. But, I was hurt a bit.
What bothers me is what he implied as far as my personal views are concerned.
He implied that I am a bigot and a racist.
I really had to get this off of my chest.
Thanks for listening.
coppertrees
Is it not nice to be judged by someone who knows not a thing? I am sorry that you were hurt, I have never gotten the impression you were a bigot or racist. Live and Learn,I was attacked today but he is a child so I am not going to respond.
S.I. Sheehan replied
This one is a child as well, the same age as my middle child. I suppose that in online communication, it is so very easy to type one word out of order that relays the wrong message….. Thank you Vickie, and you are so wise in not responding….. ~S
Virginia McGowan
yes Susan ditto Hilary I find it really difficult online and am always getting misunderstood [and sometimes in ‘trouble’ re typing ,well okay misunderstood in real life too! [Understand?] ((())))
S.I. Sheehan replied
LOL! Ginny, yep, so totally :-) Thanks so much for listening to me rant….. ~S
Wendy Slee
oh dear, poor you. I Understand totally. when communicating with lines on a screen, it is always difficult for a person to know the tone of voice you would be using, or see the smile on your lips or the kindness and good intentions in your eyes…... This type of raw misunderstanding leaves you feeling uncomfortable and I know what that is like. (I thas happened to me many times) There is nothing more you can do except send a blessing for his eventual understanding and let go….
Hugs…... if you know your intentions were all in kindness and friendship, then you must hold onto that fact and continue to believe in yourself.
Most discerning people can tell good vibes from negative ones anyway…..
S.I. Sheehan replied
No, it’s alright Wendy, just another experience to add to the pile….. I know about communication, I am a student of it, of words, I really thought that I had communicate well with this lad, but, apparently, his red hair should have been an indication to me, LOL! Anyway, what is is, and I do wish him well….. I gave him my brightest blessings….. Thank you, Wendy….. ~S
cloudsdreams
Funny the ire of those of Eire…i say share check share more cautiously. we are of hot blood with all our mixed up cookie dough. when i lived in ocala Florida many Irish their. horses and thoroughbred industry..they are touchy kind. especially on racial issues so silly. yet real to them for Eire is still in conflict or so says a friend of mine. if he just came here, i would hesitate to assume that mayhaps it is his own feelings he cannot shake of race etc. especially since you were so forthright. he will get over himself. trust me been there done that and was apologized to…funny you Susan…i love when you post these topics we forget here, yet not, then we see and listen to those of anger, and yes we know Susan. anger is always a sign of ill breeding as in the “Irish triads” if he is not of ill breeding he will seek, then you, and an apology, reparation if you will. and remember the Irish consider the shanty Irish so and so. and they consider others so and so. just laugh and give him brightest of blessings from 2 eponas and a druid. triskilian…funny how i love you and your no fear gear….always love. Janet
S.I. Sheehan replied
Love, I told him, we are mixed. I told him I had Spanish blood, other bloodlines. He argued with me. I told him, I am of many different breeds, and this was before I noticed what he was doing. He argued with me, told me, no, ‘my Mother is not of Nordic blood just because she is blonde, my Father is not of Spanish blood just because he has black hair.’ I told him, love yes it is. But, he argued with me. No big deal.
I know who I am, mixed, and my skin is the shade it is because of who I am. I didn’t have an opportunity to choose. I am that I am, dear love, always will be.
Yes, Triskillian, that be what we are :-)
Love ya, Janet, and our Druid soul….. ~S
cloudsdreams
i know you told him. BigAsB…he has issues….lots…not you for you upfront and center. just mean let him be. let him know or rather let him discover the biggot in he. i know you well. you would be upfront. nordic types…well that was last one…they never let anything go. they have resentments beyond realm, yet part scott. probably his affliction deflection, make it all someone elses fault. on another topic help. bought the daz/brice download, found windows vista downloads. yet it wants to go to my microsoft digi. should i put in filepath adobe programs. i got started susan having fun, then interrupted i ahhhh. no i know you are not forum. yet you know these 3d better. hated adobes, so very many layers my eyes go double. love the look of daz3d, and bryce….figured i paid 25 2 years ago for artrage, works, paid 29 plus some fun sales….cheap and great. any ideas…i know you are busy. emailed a few. yet i find one who uses as much as you can mayhaps help this old crone. i will burn the nordic irish with eyes as payment….)))) people so silly…stupid he…my triskilian intact. so you owe me baby sis, not really just lol. feeling so good and wishing to jump into fire of full 3d…others all came out strange, and trust me paid a small fortune for all adobe art programs. if you dont have time just send this wynd b to right place. ps bought tee of seductress. wow. got it and eyes are awesome. love the bubble quality. you should have been there for oohs, and ahhs as eyes followed. put doodles in as you know. did my eye thing for i love eyes. the all of it finished in micro digi program then flattened one must…wow. even with flattening i cannot believe how grande’ it came out. so you see. waste time on me. instead of the idiot. i a silly willy. just havin fun suze cream cheese you are. i loved how you handled him. i would have looked straight at crotch never saying a word and slowly raised my eyes and eyebrow. really piss them off. yes a wytchybytch i can be. watch out lammas season of wytch on heels. i say as a movie says “fuck em if they cant take a joke” did cards after post, he is to stupid to hold a coversation without it all being about him. ahhhhh. yes a woman thing also. yet i say good riddance and whoha for you sis. time for the trikillians to jump into fun….what ya think. did i confuse, bemuse, and just like allergy to sushi. run for your life. now i give you much to play with my dearest heart of hearts. yes you were baby sis in our time with druid soul. oh we were fun sassy wicked. i say lets play as children. you were always to serious then to. yet you evolved to mistress of mystic one….me oldest. other middle. interesting dream. cut it down yet will send. have fun with this conjunction afucktion….tee hee. i do love you stay away from fish, espescially those nords mix. some good some bad. yes i am biggot for this moment. for are we not all mixed mutts. yes. shame yet true. from dawn of pangea, man has always sought the strongest, smartest and feisty woman to better the cesspool of genepool. this one did not even come close to hearing you. beware. put that sheild up. he likes to fight unfair. heed me well. laugh him away. love ya sis. what a grande’ time we should be having. make love to yourself. something i am trying. do not even care who sees this. wow have i grown or what…sassy, brassy, classy all we are in all. night sis. janet
cloudsdreams
yet do me a fav and dock this in case wicked nord looks. plans aspans. love ya, do what ya wish. just do not want him to see what a jackass looks like in mirror. fun…do what you wish. within the message above you will see a vision and words tangled as a curse to him. so go for it or not. you know the words. some must look with mirror. remember to play stevie nicks when you do. if you do. boy am i feeling a feisty one i, in humor and in sacred truth of old. for we never had to speak a word. just knew and saw. had to. we 3. mighty you be, mighty you see. no i do not drink or drug. you know. so i say play and possibly bring another t around or a jm….up to you sis. got your back. just so proud you let him be jacderby. love you my sweet. janet re; laugh at these. we both need to laugh more. oh i wish you were here…such a wytchy fun mood i am in….
Druidstorm
“Take what you need from it Susan, throw the rest away!” Love and light your way!!!...)o(
butchart
balance partners come and go…. something there was needed…. it will come to you…...... leave the rest… no need to dwell….............b
woker
Preaching to the choir am I.
Skin pigmentation is like eye color, I think.
I have blue eyes and once blond hair and German culture from my father.
My third son married a black american.
Once he told me of his plans to frequent a place with
Mixed children, to see how they fared in the world.
I told him we are all mixed every one of us.
Good thing—keeps the gene pool strong.
We all know Hitler’s aryan effort of
blue eyes and blond hair arose from fear and had less scientific basis than bullshit .
And since less than 23% of the world’s population manifests the blue eyed gene…
I say seek them all out and disenfranchise them…
Not really….
We all do have mixed genetic material.
We all do have hesitancies and fears.
We all choose what parts of the totality of life to delete and ignore.
Every time someone hurts me
I inch toward trusting my own goodness as given
and
dependent only on my relaxing to embrace it.
Thank you eliciting my thoughts.