Tribute



If I knew this would be your last day on Earth, would I have done it any different?
Would I have sat longer in the sun with you, sharing a quiet moment listening to the birdsong…and watching the farm go by?
Would I have cooked you up a big steak for breakfast, rather than dish up the kids’ leftover cornflakes and milk?
Would I have stayed longer with you, just you and I, instead of rushing off to do all those countless things I thought were more important?
Would I have let you chase those darn cats just one time, (not yelled at you “bad dog”) so you could have skitched them real good?
Would I have praised you for your determined circling and separating the calves, told you how clever you were for working them around the paddock unassisted, like your champion parents, instead of growling at you to stop hassling them?
Would I have stroked your silky head and told you how beautiful you were? Told you what a good dog you were?
Would I have praised and thanked you for your complete loyalty to me, the unconditional love that shone from your eyes every time you looked my way?
Would I still have taken you on that walk through the bush, the kind of walk that you totally loved and could not wait to go on? Like those times when I came out the front door with my camera and you just knew we were going out in the bush, and got so excited…..? If I had known that by making you stay home, with that sad howl on a chain, and robbed you of your joy, would it have saved your life? Or would I have allowed you to run free and explore even knowing that death might be waiting somewhere out there?
Would I have kept you near to me, strictly under command, so that your “spoilsport” eyes would accuse me every time you looked up at me, longing to cut loose, but unable to…... just because I was afraid something might happen?
And would I have come home without you, so sure that you were just having a bit of fun and would be not far behind me?
Could I even have saved you?
Would I have let you have as much fun as possible, regardless?
Who knows…...
All I know is that today I lost a friend, a beautiful and loyal little friend and I never got to say goodbye….
one moment out walking, her rushing away in the bush having such canine fun, the next time I saw her was stretched out in the sun on the back lawn as if she was asleep, after having struggled home with what I can only assume was a snakebite to the face.
Candy, I celebrate you – my beautiful little friend…..
Wendy Slee
Wendy Slee
Shifty
Im so sorry Wendy,
You’ve blown me away with your words…
Wendy Slee replied
smiles…....
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you again for your kindness last night….we are okay, just had to share and try to make a celebration for our little friend…...I think these situations touch everyone at some point, though it never gets easier to say goodbye….... but the love remains. And our lives are always richer for the times we shared.
Helene Kippert
I’m so sorry wendy – I really feel for you and the kids…
Wendy Slee replied
smiles
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you for your kindness last night….. we are okay….after all, this is just “life”..... the pics were meant to be a celebration, but unfortunately they also remind us all of sad things too.
But our lives are richer for having shared…... :-)
Kelly J
oh….....wendy…....... I am so sorry….....I cant hold back the tears…......Are you okay..i will call you….. bmail me…. that is such terrible news, words escape me right now.. xxxxxx
Wendy Slee replied
smiles
joak
to upset tae comment much..so sorry!
Wendy Slee replied
smiles…....
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Joak, for your kindness. These images were meant to celebrate her joy, but unfortunately, they also remind us of the sadness we all know at parting with our beloved little friends. But still, our lives are richer for having shared, so the sadness goes and the love remains….
Wendy Slee
I apologize if this is a little sad for you all, but the kids and I were shocked to lose our friend today, and we wanted to do something to honour our “Candydog”, who died from snakebite. I thought I would hold her up to the special people here who I know will understand…...and in sharing these pictures and words, remember that her life was special…......
Wendy Slee
You know….after 20+ years of breeding horses and watching them through birth and death and all the heartbreak that goes with it, and living on a farm pretty much all my life….I still never quite get used to losing a beloved animal friend….it just never gets easier. As I tell my children, so long as they know they are loved while they are alive, it must surely make a difference to their passing, a transition so much smoother and gentler for all concerned. And how much easier for us to let go with love….....
Danielle Knight
I too am sorry Wendy, this is a very special tribute you have done. Very sad …...
Wendy Slee replied
smiles
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you again for your kindness….. we are okay…this is after all….”life”...... and no matter what, our lives ARE richer for having shared…....... hugs to you…..
linaji
Well I am in deep tears and I share your loss.. I share your words and your feelings.. my boy of 14years whom I bottle fed from the time he was weeks old as his mother was shot when I got him.. died last year.. it is funny I keep saying this year as he is so close to me still.. I am so very sorry my friend.. but he may be running with Misha now.. like crazy!! I am wanting to feel the same for the creatures .. life after life.. Much Love to you and I send you a very large and long hug. xoxo
Wendy Slee replied
smiles
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you again for your kindness last night….we are okay, just had to share and try to make a celebration for our little friend…...I think these situations touch everyone at some point, though it never gets easier to say goodbye….... but the love remains. And our lives are always richer for having shared.
Angel Perry
OH WENDY!!! I can’t hold back the tears….I’m so sorry for your loss. This is fresh in my mind as I lost my dog Aug 2nd. I can tell you…to lean on your bubble family. We are here for you. They got me through it as we will you. What a lovely tribute to your candy dog….May she rest in peace….God Bless you all. Hug the kids for me:)
Wendy Slee replied
I thought of you too, because I remember that you have been through this recently as well. But it just never gets easier does it! Tears help, so does the sharing…... thank you so much Angel…..big hugs…... (the kids and I will make a book for her…..we have done this in the past for our cats….. with stories, photos, drawings etc….. it is very healing and helps the kids to deal with it and express their thoughts….....me? I just cry lots and talk too much…...and remember well.)
MooseMan
Powerful writing, Wendy. This is a beautiful tribute to a lost friend. TEd
Wendy Slee replied
smiles
Sande Elkins
A wonderful tribute in both images and words. Wish I’d known your beautiful friend as well. I know the terrible pain of losing a beloved pet and my heart is with you today. I cried with you as I looked at such life in the photos and read the perfectly described grief and inevitable regret in your words. So very sorry for your loss but it looks as if this little one led a wonderfully full and loving life. Regret no more, just celebrate having shared such a wonderful life my friend.
Wendy Slee replied
thank you Sande, you are so right….I understand all these things, and really, the sharing of the photos was not meant to be a sad thing so much as a celebration of her joy!
NinaMosi Art
Awww…Wendy…I am so sorry friend. My thoughts are with you and your family. A beautiful tribute for your beloved friend. My kitty is in kidney failure. I feel your pain and it hurts bad. Love and hugs
Wendy Slee replied
oh dear, we all know what this is like, don’t we….the sadness and pain that shadows our love for our pets….... thank you Shelly…..... the sharing of these photos was not meant to be a sad thing so much as a celebration of her joy! I hope your kitty finds the healing or peace that you both need….... sending love and hugs back to you…..
VanSnuG
..................................
I am so sorry, Wendy …
..................................
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you….it is okay….. it is just life – a bit sad sometimes …..
the sharing of these photos was not meant to be a sad thing so much as a celebration of her joy!
AngelPhotozzz
I am so sorry for your loss… losing a trusted friend is never easy my heart goes out to you and your family… God bless
Wendy Slee replied
It never gets easier though, does it, no matter how many friends we say good bye to….but we are okay of course, it is, after all…..just “life”.......the sharing of these photos was not meant to be a sad thing so much as a celebration of her joy!
Wendy Slee replied
and thank you…. :-)
KSkinner
My condolences Wendy… Many times we often wonder, but I think you know in your heart – your friend and companion still chases those butterflies (and cattle).
One of the joys of photography is to have images such as the ones you have assembled for this tribute forever to relive those special moments shared and never forgotten!
While I doubt any other animal could ever take the place of your wonderful friend, you will find that your interaction and loss will make you bond stronger to the things you truly have concern for.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you for your kind words….. I should be very wise by now, to these matters, but somehow, it always is a shock to lose a little loved one…....and never gets easier. We are okay, and of course….the sharing of these photos was not meant to be a sad thing so much as a celebration of her joy!
LindaR
I am writing you now with eyes full of tears, for your loss of your friend and giver of unconditional love…all I can say as I see the images you’ve posted and read your profound wishes in your writing, dearest Wendy, is this… Candy knows she was loved and treasured and her life was lived and expressed as she wished…she got to participate and love you all… and that was enough…sending you a heartfelt hug, my friend xxx
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much dear Linda xxx OF course we are sad, but we are okay…...Celebrating who she is and was with the photos is a good good thing….. and it is so nice to have a “family” on here to share that unconditional love that she represented, with….
Els Steutel
so sorry to hear of the loss of a good friend, wet eyes here by reading your words and watching the pictures, take care and I hope you can give it a place in your heart.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much Els, sorry for giving you tears…... I think these situations touch everyone at some point, it seems to me that I have such a long line of creatures in my life who have walked in and out…..and it never gets easier….... but we are okay, and the love remains.
Marvin Collins
Having lived as long as I have and always had at least one dog, usually 2 or 3, it is never easy, it is like losing a member of the family. My heart goes out to you, I still miss my old friends. Just remember that all dogs go to heaven.
Wendy Slee replied
I think these situations touch everyone at some point, it seems to me that I, like you, have such a long line of creatures in my life who have walked in and out…..and it never gets easier….... but we are okay, and the love remains. And our lives are always richer for the times we shared. Thank you so much Marvin
dawndavies
so sorry to hear of your sad loss, so so sad and i feel for you and the kids, much love dawnx
Wendy Slee replied
HUgs back….we are okay, just had to share and try to make a celebration of our little friend…... think these situations touch everyone at some point, it seems to me that I have such a long line of creatures who have walked in and out of my life…..and it never gets easierd to say goodbye….... but we are okay, and the love remains. And our lives are always richer for the times we shared. Thank you Dawn…xx
Sharon Johnstone
Wendy I’m so sorry…...xx
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Sharon…...xx we are okay, just had to share and try to make a celebration of our little friend…... the love remains. And our lives are always richer for the times we share with these special friends…..
Dawnsky2
Oh bless..what beautiful words you write,, i am so sorry for your loss Wendy,,x
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Laura…....I just had to make a tribute or celebration of this special dog….. we are okay….after all, this is “life”.....and no matter what, it is richer for having shared…....
lianne
Oh Wendy I am so terribly saddened by your loss and for you and your family, my deepest sympathy. What an extraordinary tribute and such beautiful words and images to remember her by. Much love, Lianne xox
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Lianne…xx we are okay, just had to share and try to make a celebration for our little friend…...I think these situations touch everyone at some point, though it never gets easier to say goodbye….... but the love remains. And our lives are always richer for the times we shared.
EnchantedDreams
Wendy I am so sorry. I am filled up with tears. Your words are beautiful and so are your pics. I know exactly what you’re going through. I lost my dog 2 years ago. I think about him ever day. And I miss him dearly. I still cry.
What a beautiful tribute Wendy.
Much love,
God Bless You! xx
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you for your beautiful words….I send you hugs back… it never gets easier does it…? But we are okay, this is after all “life” no matter how sad it gets at times, and we have indeed been made richer for the times we share with these special friends…......
Fern Design
Oh Wendy so sorry to hear about this… really sorry and this is a special thing that u did for ur little friend… awww…... I don’t know what i would ever do without my little Brutus….
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Elisabeth….. it is always so sad to face these times…but we are ok…..it is, after all “life”. Plus we can celebrate her, and remember that the love remains…. and our lives are richer for having shared these times with our little friend….. hugs…
cdwork
Kind thoughts to you and your family!
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much ….. we are okay, you know, this is after all…”life” in all its glory…...(just one of the sad bits )..... The pictures were meant to be a celebration ….so hopefully we remember that our lives are richer for having shared….. (smiles)
Anthony Mancuso
Oh Wendy, I’ve been reading your words and looking at the pictures of your beloved friend, then turning to my three ratbags who eat my shoes and my furniture and ask, is it all worth it? the answer is simple. Yes! The joy they bring outwieghs any destruction! I feel for you and your family Wendy and can only offer my warmest wishes. They do become your family and when you lose them it does hurt. Take Care. X
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Anthony, for your kind and honest words….so true huh? We would never miss out on the opportunity to enrich our lives with these special friends, simply becuase the parting is painful…. Of course we are okay here….. I really just wanted to celebrate her with the joyful pics, but unfortunately these memories touch everyone and remind us of the “sadder” side of our relationships with our beloved creatures…. give your ratbags a big pat for me….. I have one sad and lonely goofball here that need s a big hug too as he is missing his little friend…. thanks again Anthony….
louisegreen
I am sorry for your loss of this beautiful friend Wendy, your tribute to her is very special.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Louise…... the photos were meant to be a celebration of her joy, but naturally they touch everyone with sadness as well. I think we all know that this is just a part of life and that the love remains no matter what…... :-))
Sharon Hammond
Very sad. A beautiful tribute
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Sharon, we are okay, as you probably know, this is just “life” and the downside of all the joy we get from sharing our lives with our special friends….. smiles….
jennyfnf
He came home Wendy and will always be with you. Poor poor boy, I hope the pain was over quickly for him. Oh dear, how I feel for you.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much Jenny, yes, you are right….”gone home”...
These moments are never easy but it is always good to celebrate our special friends and know how much richer our lives are because of them being in it, even if only for a short while…. we are okay….. just a little sad…... (hugs…).
JenniferB
:-(
xox
Wendy Slee replied
Yes, it sucks. We are okay – i wanted to just celebrate her life with these pics, but naturally it does make everyone feel sad as we have all known such times. But the love remains, and our lives are definitely better off for having had these special creatures share it….
thanks JB…..
JenniferB
Yes, pets bring so much unconditional love and joy into your life, I have no doubt she knew how loved she was.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you….yes indeed….... If only WE as humans could realize that too…....
joak
lost one this year and nearly lost another a couple o weeks back i canny handle it …was seriously thinkin o not gettin any more it hurts to much …but there should be a pup with us in the new year!
Wendy Slee replied
They are always with us for a reason….. though dammit, the shadow side is just so hard to take….. hugs to you….for your own sad memories…..... just hold onto the love and the joy! And yes….new life…a puppy…..!
joak
cheers take care
Carol Lewsley
sorry to hear about the loss of Candy the tears are still rolling down my cheeks . what a beautiful tribute Wendy
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much….it is meant to be a celebration of her life and her joy, but obviously it is still a sad reminder …..
KcranmerArt
Oh no Wendy, I am SO sorry for your loss. Our pets become our family and it’s always so sad to lose them. Such beautiful pictures you added and what a wonderful tribute to Candy!!!! hugz xoxo
Wendy Slee replied
Yes indeed, and this was meant to be a happy tribute but naturally it all just got so sad….... thank you so much dear Kellie….. hugs xxx
Phil Threlfall
Oh Wendy, so sorry. A beautiful dog she was, I know.
Wendy Slee replied
Yes, she was a dear sweet little girl and her love was so loyal….. thank you Phil….because you know….....xx
Heloisa Castro
formidable
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Heloisa….. this is my way of turning the tears into smiles and remembering her joy !
Ravenor
So sad for you Wendy, what a horrible thing to happen, hope you and the kids are ok soon, I know just what it is like, to me it is just the same as losing one of the family, the only difference being that it happens more often. so sad… hope you all feel better soon xx
Wendy Slee replied
thanks dear Ray, yes we are fine, just got a bit of a hole in our lives right now…...Our little animal friends truly do become such an important and positive part of our lives…... sometimes when this happens, I think “never again” or “no more” but I know deep down inside that our lives are richer for the sharing and no matter how difficult the parting is, I would never be without a beautiful dog, cat or horse friend…....(or several!! lol)
frogster
Wendy my friend Im so so sorry for your loss, this is such a wonderful tribute for such a good friend and family member.
Wendy Slee replied
AAaah Larry, thank you so much, yeah, these times are so rough and sad, but the simple fact is, we would never be without our little friends, and they bring us such joy while they are with us…....I just hope she knew how loved she was!
mistletoes
What a beautiful epitaph, Wendy. “Sorry” doesn’t express it well enough, but still, and from my heart, sorry.
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Jan, most sincerely…...we are fine, just a bit sad and shocked…. I never get used to this, even after a lifetime on a farm….it is the one bit i really hate…... But still, who would wish to have a life without our beautiful creatures close by….. thank you for understanding….xx
Trish Threlfall
dear wendy i am so very sorry , to hear of the loss of your dear friend , your words made me cry the photos very beautiful, i hope you and the kids are ok love and hugs xxoo
Wendy Slee replied
Hugs back to you Trish…yeah, this is the part that sucks when you have a beautiful pet and love it….. but it is nice to also share and honour their joyful life too, so thank you for reading and looking at the pics…... we are okay, just miss her…..
PNFdeb
hey sweet soul of a woman…. I am very sorry and know that it is hard your images are fabulous and what a celebration of a life well lived. Huge HUGE hug…
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much Deb…... this set of photos was so meant to uplift and bring smiles, but it also, alas, brought tears and sad memories….... Thank you for seeing the “celebration” it is meant to be…....BIG hugs right back to you !
Sean Farragher
very sad
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you Sean, but it was wonderful to have shared with a dog like her… (smiles)
Enivea
When I read this last night, the words couldn’t come….they are still elusive, but the feeling is there…for you and the family, losing this wonderful mate. Your photos show a joyous beautiful natured dog who lived life to the full, and gave generously of her heart. A lovely tribute. xxx
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you from my heart Enivea…your words totally sum up what I wanted to express with these images…. (hugs)
Larry Llewellyn
I’m in a library reading your words, and the comments… I’ve been there, I’m sure we are have or will be… you said it well, for me anyway, thankyou.. I’m alone like so many I’m sure, wife, kids, pet… I have one left a Siamese of 18 years he’s blind, and one of these days….I to, will want to share, as you have done so beautifully, will my redbubble family the joys that you’ve captured….
Thanks again for sharing…. at this special time…
Wendy Slee replied
Hi Larry, thank you for your heartfelt response….... the bonds we form with our little friends are still so precious and important….even the sadness and grief at losing them, cannot take that away from us….. I do believe that what we share with them, the love, never dies when they do….it always remains with us, a part of us forever. I know so well the sorrow when I lose a “loved one”....but would never allow that to deter me from loving another somewhere up the track. When the sad day comes that you say goodbye to your siamese, be sure to let us know….we will be there for you too….
eXposure
My heart goes out to you Wendy, such a terrible loss.
I haven’t walked in the bush,
since seeing a large tiger snake a few weeks
back xo
Wendy Slee replied
thank you Wendy….. I know….I was aware that i would not be able to enjoy my bushwalks for much longer, but this came as a horrible shock. Today I went out walking up the track with my remaining dog (who is still sad, and he clung to my side….)....it just was not the same…..I wont be heading across the paddocks and through the forest until next winter!
LinMorin
Wendy I am SOOOOO sorry for your loss. And I am sorry I have not been on line in the past two days so I could have responded sooner,. Your tribute to Cindydog is the most touching thing I have ever seen. It is so wonderful to have a companion who is always there, but to one day loose them suddenly can be one of the most challenging moments of ones life. Cindy looks like she had a wonderful life with you and your family. And she looks like she loved you all very much. I know words can not help what you are feeling just now and I won’t say that you will feel better soon, but eventually you will be able to remember her with a smile instead of a tear. And Wendy she will always be with you and your kids, just look into your heart, she is there….Truely sorry, Lin
Wendy Slee replied
Hugs Lin, for your heartfelt words….I know that you and all these other beautiful people here truly “understand”.....
The thing is, I was shocked and saddened, but also know that this is life….and just the downside of all that happiness we get from sharing our path with our creature friends…..
It never gets easy to say good bye, but remembering the love, helps…
thank you!
Ginger Barritt
Oh, Honey, I am so sorry I’m late with my words of sorrow for your loss…..Cindy is beautiful….....Words escape me, Sweetie…...Know that you have my tears added to your own…
Wendy Slee replied
thank you so much Ginger, that is all ok…you know, we are ok! Just saddened, because these things are always upsetting and difficult….darnit, I have said goodbye to so many horses, dogs, cats and others, but i never get tough…not one bit! I love all the creatures…... but I do believe the love lives on, as do their beautiful memories that become a part of who we are…
hugs to you my friend! xx
aspectsoftmk
i touch my heart…..and feel this….and i smile for candy and know her soul will always run and play with you…..xx
Wendy Slee replied
BEautiful words…..exactly how I feel too…... thank you most sincerely….xx
Seosamh
Awesome…! perfect capture !!
Available now :
My 2009 CALENDAR-Landscapes of Ireland.-link:
http://www.redbubble.com/people/seosamh/calendars/2092409-1-landscapes-of-ireland
Wendy Slee replied
thank you…. :-)
LinMorin
May Love and Peace always be with you Wendy!
Wendy Slee replied
and with you and yours…. :-))
Alessandro Flo...
sorry… :( hugs for you.
Wendy Slee replied
aaah, but It is life….. thank you sincerely, Alessandro…. (smiles)
Tainia Finlay
Oh Wendy .. typing through tears here. Your beautiful tribute is so moving, so joyous to share in the happy photo’s celebrating Candy’s life as you have. My heart goes out to you and yours xxxx
Wendy Slee replied
HUgs to you Tainia, yes a sad moment in the grand journey of life, but indeed, seeing the pictures reminds me of the greater lesson here and that is indeed, living life with joy and appreciation…. thank you for your kind understanding….xxx
Pamela B
Aww Wendy I am so sorry for your loss. It’s such a hard thing to go through. (((Wendy))) hugs for you.
Wendy Slee replied
I know…..thank you so much….Life is a mix, we all have to face these moments, and it is nice to have like minded friends to share with…....
H M Bascom
Oh I just want to cry! You were there for me when my little Sparta passed. It is losing a friend, a family member, and it hurts. This is a wonderful tribute, and it is so easy to see that your beloved friend was so happy and well loved. My heart goes out to you Wendy.
Wendy Slee replied
Big hugs…..we all KNOW…....because we all love and have loved….and been loved in return by these beautiful little friends…..
thank you Helen…...xx
Christopher E...
wow, cant stop the tears from rolling down my face.
beautiful words to such a dedicated friend. am so so sorry for your loss. so many dont really realize how much a pet means, their place in the family. who knows what would have happened, if only.
am so so sorry wendy, wonderful shots you have of her, there’s no doubt she knew she was loved and cherished.
Wendy Slee replied
thank you most sincerely Christopher….(sorry for giving you tears)......part of the reason for setting out most of these shots was to somehow put the smiles and happy memories back, but at the same time, I know that this experience echoes those of so many of my friends here, and will therefore evoke tears of recognition as we all remember our favourite little departed friends…..
Gary L. Suddath
so sorry to hear of your loss..the images and words brought tears to my eyes….I have 3 babies and they are more dear to me than anything…to loose one would be like loosing a grandchild
Wendy Slee replied
Thank you so much Gary….... those of us who love so deeply our little friends, all feel the same way…...
missashapoopoo
what a beautiful tribute…so sorry for your loss…i lost my dog not along ago and miss her so much…what beautiful happy pics to look back on…she was georgeous…
Wendy Slee replied
It is nice to “try” to celebrate the happy and the loving memories, to focus on the good, even if your heart is breaking and you are missing them. I hope you can find peace in your memories too, and be happy knowing your loved one is wherever mine is….running free….
missashapoopoo
The only picture i have in my head of asha is her smile…i will never know what killed her, like you of Candy …but i want to hold onto that smile, because i know while she was here, she was loved and had fun…i can’t dwell on how i found asha, it hurts too much…so i turn my thoughts to the wonderful memories she’s left for me, and her daughter she’s left for me (who was 7wks old), she was a kelpie x and mated with a labradoodle….so when i hug her daughter, she feels like a teddy bear….that’s what she’s left me, and i cherish her….
My last dog, i had for 13yrs, and i miss her just as much to this day…my dog’s, i’ve loved them as they’ve loved me…i’m not perfect, but i know i gave them love, i gave them food, i gave them cuddles and i did my best…
missashapoopoo
You did your best…what you wrote about Candy, blew me away… you were a great mum, don’t think otherwise… sounds to me she had an owner who cared very much for her…. she had the life!
Wendy Slee replied
Thanks dear Sasha I feel for you and your own sad story, but commend you on your love of your little friends…...The one thing I believe is that if you love your pets and give them a good life so they KNOW they are loved, then no matter what death they receive, those few moments are nothing compared to what they KNOW to be true…..the love always outweighs the reality of death….