Being A Lady
Being a lady does not require wealth, though historically there were a larger proportion of ladies among the wealthy.
Ladies are not born, they are made. Being a woman does not automatically make one a lady.
A Lady learns through reading all of her life. A lady by today’s definition knows that educating herself in every way possible, from higher education to the common sense manners, empowers her to become a woman of accomplishment and poise. She knows it is not her dress size or the money she possess that brings her satisfaction in life.
A lady knows that beauty and wealth can be fleeting, but her inner character is the measure by which others will ultimately judge her as a person.
Her courtesies, the high esteem in which she holds herself and others, and her sincere words of praise and thoughtfulness will reflect her strong values and place her ahead in the minds and hearts of those who know her. Being thought of as a “lady” may be the one of the highest compliments a woman can receive in her life.
A lady always shows respect and consideration for others while placing a premium on honesty and graciousness. A lady also knows how her individual choices may affect others and how easy it is to choose words and actions more wisely.
A lady is one who is generous with her smile. Her smile encourages other smiles.
If you have had an embarrassing moment, she will appear to never have noticed it. If you have spilled soup on yourself, she would make light of it.
Her words are kind and thoughtful. Her gestures and actions reflect that too. She will always offer a helping hand to elderly.
When she has an appointment with someone, she is always on time, if not a little early. If she foresees to be five minutes late, she phones as early as fifteen minutes before. She takes into account potential time-hazards when planning her time. She has a deep reverence for time and other people’s time. She sticks to her appointments, come rain or shine. She is dependable to turn up for her appointments. She never cancels, unless it is a real emergency. She will never make an excuse because she knows others have cleared their schedules for her. Time is one of the most valued currency. While money can be lost, it may be earned back. But when time is lost, time is lost for ever.
In her actions, she considers others.
She moves to the middle of the train to allow more space for passengers who come after her, and gives up her seat to that pregnant lady.
She speaks softly in public places, so that it will not be a disturbance to others.
She respects wishes and personal choices of others and will not ask intruding or potentially embarrassing questions. While she may not agree with differing opinions, she will be gracious about it.
A lady is disciplined in mind and heart. She is disciplined in her lifestyle, not allowing herself to be drunk, be addicted to bad habits of eating unhealthy food, shop incessantly, be over ridden with debt, have too many possessions, or have disorder in her life and home.
She also knows being disciplined in her heart and mind means taking efforts to ‘guard her heart’.
Just as she is always on time, she has a strong work ethic. She performs what is required of her, without complaining. She works hard and doesn’t give in even though she is tired or in discomfort, nor will her attitude towards others change if she is in discomfort or in pain.
A lady has a balanced life with her values intact.
She is passionate about her work, but it will not take over her values. She is passionate about family, but she does not neglect herself and she continues to take interests outside of family.
She knows when she is over-stretching herself and says ‘no’ to the unnecessary. Due to her disciplined manner of living, she enjoys what she has chosen, designed. She is never hurried and in a rush.
A lady treats everyone the same.
She does not think she is better or more important than anyone and vice versa. She speaks in the same manner to the janitor as she would to the vice president of her husband’s company.
She also does not repay a rude comments with nastiness.
She assumes the best of people.
A lady is authentic and never puts on pretenses.
She is unafraid to say that she doesn’t know and does not pretend to know.
She is honest regarding her age, her wealth, or accomplishments. She tries to be as respectful as possible and is humble.
She gets the best quality that she can afford and will use it until it needs to be replaced.
A lady is a giver; she is not merely generous with her finances, [if she happens to be a wealthy person]. She is also generous with her time, words, her things, affection, her compliments, encouragement and praises.