So who do we, as men, go to in times of drama?
As men, and yes I am most definitely a man, we have a predicament that off times seems lost on, or more often unknown to women at large. The question is, who do we, as men talk to when we have a personal problem?
I mean after all, if you’re a woman you can share nearly anything with most of your female friends who will listen without malice or judgment, hug you, hold you, cry with you if necessary, and even take you to dinner finishing with a gallon of Rocky Road on the couch at home.
If we tried this with our male friends we would immediately be labeled as gay, insane, unworthy of the third base position on the weekend warrior softball team, unfit for a round of Jack and Sam at the local tavern or just plain, shall I say it,
Sensitive.
A woman may even share sensitive feelings with her close male friends without too many repercussions as guys expect women to be sensitive, feeling, and often in need of “saving.”
But can we go to our female friends when we need saving?
Right. Sure. Lets examine this scenario in a wee bit more detail, shall we?
If we attempt to talk to a woman we like about a personal problem, we’ll no doubt be labeled a “wuss” and it will immediately end any chance of anything “more” happening with them.
If we decide to talk to another woman who is just a friend who we have no designs on and are not attracted to we stand the risk of being labeled suddenly “sensitive” awakening latent feelings in our “pal” that eventually go unanswered, risking the very friendship at its core due to their (often ill perceived) assumption that we went to them for more than just comfort and a shoulder.
Ugh.
Do women and gay men realize how lucky they are?
To avoid the many labels thrust upon us, to avoid misunderstandings, to avoid the laughter of friends, and yes to avoid the possibility of being turned away in our hour of need,
Most men just keep it in, suffer in silence, act like a “man”
and often go silently into the long, lonely night.
And you wonder why we can be such assholes sometimes?
sheesh
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