Trisha... RB will miss you

When I first joined RB I started to meet and make friends as most of us do. One person stood out as we became close, as we bonded on a level that few people do. Trisha (known as Pagly) and I connected in a way that was good for both of our souls. She believed in goodness and put her energy into selfless acts, living her beliefs as she gave unceasing to others. Professionally, she used her skills in the field of psychology to help her fellow human beings. She put her money into building an orphanage in a third world country as she had such a great heart for children in need. She was an accomplished concert pianist who gave her time and talent for charity. Trisha lived her life in a pro active way… not from the side lines. She lived her love.

Trisha had a very special place she would go to; there she would reflect, to ponder and meditate on things of importance, to find calmness and peace. This place was a garden in her backyard. There she had two benches, simply known as bench-1 and bench-2. Trisha had but one rule in her garden sanctuary, there were to be no words spoken out loud – period! In our friendship, there were many times she envisioned me sitting on the second bench. In my thoughts I spent many times sitting on bench-2, relishing the time with a kindred spirit.

I had written a poem sometime ago entitled, My Spirits Bench, where I attempted to describe the specialness of our friendship in a way I knew Trisha would understand, and agree with. It is so special to me… I hope all can now understand this writing in light of knowing its origin.

My Spirits Bench

Trisha, I will miss you. You will not be forgotten. Our spirits will meet… you on bench-1, I on bench-2.



  • Sally Omar
    Sally Omarover 4 years ago

    Trisha was a very special person..someone who embraced life and knew how to love…we
    also became very close and when my husband passed away in darling Trisha
    was there for me…wrote me daily…giving encouragement…I truly love her and know she now
    dances with the Angels!!! xoxoxoxo

  • C.C. Arshagra
    C.C. Arshagraover 4 years ago

    Sounds like anamazing woman! I takes a lot of courage to become human and live heer this way.
    So many just live to own, control, have, take and keep, I think the world will miss her too. The think the whole world does miss her already.

    Thank you for sharing this Roger.

  • Rhenastarr
    Rhenastarrover 4 years ago

    Such a loving tribute to a beautiful soul!

  • linaji
    linajiover 4 years ago

    Roger,,, I am speechless and my heart is heavy for some reason although not as close by any means in what you both shared, she seemed to come in close to my life and leave a wonderful comment of support now and again… and then she was gone.

    It is times like these when I know I shall not feel that specialness of her presence again I wonder about ‘doing enough’. Your description of her (and now I shall read your poem) has given me a better feeling as to knowing more about this true angel.
    Thank you so much for sharing this insite to beauty on this planet; a woman called Trisha.

  • autumnwind
    autumnwindover 4 years ago

    my tears are flowing. an incredibly beautiful tribute for an amazing woman. I can see how special you both are – and I am so happy to read this and know you both found in each other a wonderful sharing ‘place’. I remember your poem, and I am going to read it again right now. I have not been able to do or think of anything else much since I read the news from Sally. you are a wonderful friend, and her light is shining through you right now. my deepest sympathy to you, her dear friend. the greater the gift, the greater the loss indeed. sending hugs, shar xoxoxo

  • solareclips~Julie  Alexander
    solareclips~Ju...over 4 years ago

    I am so sorry that I did not know her well at all. I know for her to have that kind of impact on your life, well, she must have been special. I know that you are hurting and sad… 143 SF

  • Rosalie Dale
    Rosalie Daleover 4 years ago

    Bless you Roger for sharing this – despite knowing she’s in a better place, I am struggling with sadness. She will most certainly be missed. xx

  • Judylee
    Judyleeover 4 years ago

    What a truly loving tribute Rog!

  • Arco Iris  R
    Arco Iris Rover 4 years ago

    Thank you for sharing these little things about her. I knew her only for a few months, but they were enough for us to become great friends. She always read my writings and I loved hers. Some were so funny and so full of fun and life. She was always so optimistic. When I wrote for the first time something very dark inside about my father that scared me so much that I was afraid to post it, but did any way, she told me to take all of the negativity that was coming my way, write it down then put it in a box and set fire to it. She said that I would feel much better. If it didn’t work, to keep on doing it until it did. I will never forget her words. As we kept on, we began bonding. How could you help it? She was all caring and she was about love.
    I was missing her writings and even b’mailed her. I was beginning to worry until I found Sally’s writing. I thank God that my cousin sent me here. I wanted to know more about her and you gave me a little more of her. Thank you once again. We have all lost a treasure.

  • Rikki Woods
    Rikki Woodsover 4 years ago

    Beautiful. I did not know her well but wish I had.