I was watching the movie “The Ultimate Gift” listening to the character played by James Garner talking to his grandson when he said… ’Learning is a gift… even if pain is your teacher". As soon as the words had finished coming out of his mouth I honestly said out loud – YES!! Immediately I was blown away by the quote and I wrote it down and thought about its meaning for weeks. I’ve never felt so affected by a sentence before.
Upon reflecting this quote I found quite confronting to realise that I spent my twenties doing everything to avoid and “run away” from my emotional pain.. Now in my 30s I’ve realised that pain was essential for me to be a more caring, less-judgemental and forgiving person.
Pain seems to show us the truth in others… the truth that all people, no matter what’s on the outside… have a heart capable of breaking on the inside.
It gives me great comfort that I can now view the grief of my brothers death as somewhat of a gift to me – rather than nothing but a loss