Meaningful Interactions
Over Christmas and New Year I took a couple of weeks off work. But I also had a couple of weeks away from the computer, from the internet, from answering my phone.
Of course what happened was I started to think. About photography, the nature of creating things and releasing them to the world, but mostly about the meaningful interactions I’ve had online.
One of the things that first drew me to RedBubble was the positive response to my photography. Heck, it feels good when people like your stuff and say so. But it went deeper than that. I’d admire someone’s favourites list and start to pay attention to them. Then I’d notice we were commenting on a lot of the same stuff. Not knowing anything more about that person, I’d feel closer to them, connected. Like I’d made a friend.
Online we reveal some of our most personal feelings and thoughts. Whether directly through our words, or indirectly through our actions. The internet is house to a true society of people, with a full spectrum of personalities and desires. Perhaps it is the (thin) layer of online anonymity which allows us to expose ourselves and embrace vulnerability. There is something very cathartic about saying to the world ‘this is me and I am not afraid’ (even if you’re shitting yourself inside).
Over time relationships develop and mature. Many of my closest friendships were established here on RedBubble, and much of our communication happens in bubblemail, on facebook, and in emails. I met my partner who I now live with on RedBubble too. These relationships are just as important and real to me as any other. They give me everything other relationships do – joy, entertainment, heartbreak, sorrow, confusing, tension and love.

jemimalovesbigted
here here Jo!! =D
amanda Rae
extreemly well written…thoughts shared by many im sure…..happy new yr to you..
jemimalovesbigted
and haha! just looked at your tags. Ooooooooooo!!
Soxy Fleming!
well said, and I never would have believed it a year ago!
sjem ©
Good words Jo jo. You were my first.
sjem ©
Um … first person I met in the real world after meeting on the internets I mean.
Jo O'Brien
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I remember it well, on the way to our lunch date I was asked for my autograph by a random women in the street.
Rajdev D
Very well written, i agree with you 100 %
thickblackoutline
i cannot express what the relationships i have built here mean to me. let alone how one in particular is so important to me, it astounds me everyday!
well said jo!! i’ve always said, the internet is the outlet for your Id. no one knows us quite the same way!
PJ Ryan
you’re lovely x
amanda marx
in the short time i’ve been RedBubbling i’ve empathized with so many people . . . with their words, their images & their favourites & now with everything you’ve said jo . . . cheers sweetie
xXx
am
Craig Shillington
Wow I agree :) Except I have never shown anything else than what is truly me as I am, online. And as far as relationships :) :) :) Dreams come true no matter where you are (or if you are physical) as long as you are true and honest :) :) I too am in a relationship with someone (ah hem …. hello up there my sweet Princess) I met in RB too :) :) Well said Jo.
Heinz
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There is something very cathartic about saying to the world ‘this is me and I am not afraid’ (even if you’re shitting yourself inside).
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...but if you do, you should become very afraid (referring to the bits in brackets, from a medical viewpoint).
...but yes, you made a good point and I know what you meant. The thing to remember is perhaps this, any trace one leaves on the Internet will linger longer than the short remnant blows of lentil soup.
Paul Louis Vil...
Oh yes!!!! Me too!! :D
Chookas
and there in lies the magic that makes the Bubble so special!
Brilliantly said dear Jo!
But did you really have 2 weeks off? You deserved it too
I’m sure I bothered you once or twice in that time tho!
but it has flown so fast – my life has been that crazy!
and as for relationships, met on line or bringing them in with you, it is always HAPPY bubbling together! I have almost a full family affair happening here and we all compliment each other! so I say a family that bubbles together huggles together. ☺
Chookas! X♥X
Jo O'Brien
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Yes, two whole weeks. It was surprisingly hard to do
Colleen Milburn
It’s a fabulous place indeed, Jo – couldn’t agree more :-D
Cathie Tranent
I’ve made some wonderful wonderful friends here. (And met them too)!
Byron Gates Jr
As we used to say, “right on my sister”
Thanx for the refresher course, we all can stand a bit of introspect inspection of self.
Continue.
Byron Gates Jr
Heather Rivet...
i agree some fantastic folks on here
Xavier Shay
hooray for internet friends
tkrosevear
So true Jo, especially here at RB, I have never experienced connections like here ;) xoxox
Andrew Bosman
How very true Jo.
Yesterday I took a day off work and a fellow redbubbler drove from Sydney to my place and we spent the day shooting together. 18 months ago I would have been going it alone….
Paul Vanzella
well said Jo… this proves the connection of the mind is so pure when physicality doesn’t exist… I so hear ya! And, there have been so many other relationship started here… didn’t we also have a mariage already! : ))
transmute
One of my bbmails says ‘fallopian tubes’!?
kossimarsalsa
what a gorgeous statement, i’ve had a bit of the same thing on here. it’s so great to be able to talk to someone who might be so geographically distant but so emotionally close, it’s a truly beautiful thing.
xx
s-a
Matt Penfold
Your comments and observations are so true Jo, I stood at the open redbubble door for a while, looking in. I stepped over the threshold less than two weeks ago because I saw what you describe in this really well crafted journal entry. The meaningful connections and Interactions sure can start quick :>)
Jessica Tremp
a beautiful insight Jo and a very true one. my best friends have come from here…x
Kate Lillian
some really interesting reflections. thanks for sharing. How cool you met your partner on RB. :-)
bellmusker
Amen to this! There would be such a hole in my life without the amazing people I’ve met through RB…...I wouldn’t have found my writing voice as I have, I wouldn’t have made it to Iceland if the beautiful Melbourne bubblers hadn’t collected over $700 to replace my burgled passports, and there’s a hell of a lot of merlot I wouldn’t have swilled at RB gatherings as we chatted about all manner of artistic joys & inspirations.
And how can I not love a place where friends lend me their cat while they go away? :-) Give the little Sasquatch a scratch for me, Jo…I’m still picking her fur off furniture!
And it has to be said…..Chris, what the hell was your bubblemail titled ‘fallopian tubes’ about?!
Tania Rose
sniff! ok, pass the tissues
Diesel Laws
Well said, and it was great meeting you yesterday!
morpheus71
Like your thoughts Jo. It stokes when you get feedback from people who are producing images of immense talents. Guess it spurs me on to try out ideas of ‘photos i have taken with my mind’.
Helen McLean
Awww, how romantic! A great overview of what RB and other online communities can be about. Enjoy another year of it Jo!
Darryl A
I fel the same way Jo. I value meeting you, our interactions, your work… it’s great to be around someone so creative, albeit only occasionally. :)
BigFatRobot
i met my soul mate on the bubble – who would’ve thunk it!
Lorna Gerard
How sweet and true these words are, i feel the same, thank you for sharing Jo.
Karin Taylor
this is just so true Jo, i agree with every word….
thank you for who you are, you make RB all the more special through your presence…
adgray
JoJo
I too found my partner [Skik] on the net – though not through the bubble & feel that the veneer of ambiguity offered as an artificial shield allows the honesty of values come through breaking down the personal shields from the inside & only to those we wish to reveal ourselves to
I feel when we connect on the net the reason we seem to connect so fully is the essence of our person comes out before the facade veneer of our image, that is in real life we are so hooked up on “what we look like”, “how we dress”, “how we sound”, “what we do” that the essential reasons, the “why” we do, the “what” we say, the “honesty” of our smile is lost in the facade we maintain.
I never lie but on the net I try so very hard to always be completely honest and yet people still misconstrue what they read. In reality I do the same and people cannot believe what I project. You have met me you understand that.
thus when we find a net connection we work harder to cement it than with just a facial smile or twinkling wink, or we let it slip away like the travelers we are in time and life.
But I believe success is not in what we have or what we acquire but in the lasting impression we leave others good or bad (evil can be successful also if that was the objective sought) as we pass through their lives….
It is also very interesting to read this now nearly 8 months after it was written. The bubble seems to have evolved so much since when this was written
I am not sure if it is for the better tho as I no longer feel the addiction I used to feel
I still come in here but I come in out of habit more than anything and I go seeking but what for I am not certain I feel I have lost something …. something vital but I cannot describe what it is so others may help me find it again.
I have had days away from the site and have not even noticed. I have worried about my groups but even that is no longer the draw it once was.
I think I have found all the readers I shall ever find in here and even they seem to be too otherwise preoccupied to read any longer
But it is nice to every now and then come across the stunning art that I love
and you are still here – the heart of our bubble! Thank you!
Chookas gal! X♥X