Lilith and Relationship Equality
There are many stories that we hear. Some we believe others we don’t. However I believe we can learn from everything that comes to our minds. The Bible talks of The Garden of Eden and Adam and Eve. Perhaps this is a true story or perhaps it is a story from someone’s imagination.
There is another story that is gaining some interest and it is the story of Lilith. The story claims that Lilith was the first created woman and like Adam she was formed from the soil. That she quiet naturally thought of herself as Adam’s equal and demanded of Adam to treat her as such.
However Adam didn’t see Lilith as an equal and in sexual intimacy demanded Lilith to take the lower or subservient position. Lilith was outraged at this and would not allow herself to be controlled by Adam. This then caused Adam to complain to God that Lilith was evil and dangerous. Lilith fled the Garden of Eden and was never to return.
The story goes that God then created a subservient woman in Eve and that Lilith coupled with Devils and created evil children. I believe that this story can teach us much about modern day life. That we can further build on this story to create a positive message for mankind.
I believe that all people are equal in their hearts and souls..that material life can create rankings and status but that in ultimate reality it is all an illusion. For most of humanity we have judged according to gender, race, material wealth etc. However true peace and joy comes from no judgement and no competition fears.
I feel that our lives today are especially tainted with how we view women. I believe that many men fear women and in their fear try to control them. They attempt to act in ways that project superiority over the females in their lives. I believe lust and sexuality are perfect examples of this fear.
However I believe whenever any person attempts to control another or put themselves above another they don’t feel full passion for life. I believe that at a deep level the Lilith character knew of this rule of life and energy. That she knew Adam would not feel God fully by dominating another person.
A truly peaceful and powerful person is one who surrenders control of life. Who respects all of life from plants to animals to other people. This person receives energy and beauty from all things in his/her life and is in harmony with him/herself and God.
Why would any man want to be with a woman who he needs to control or exert superiority over??? Surely the best union of any two people is where they both respect each other fully. Where they can give each other total freedom as they trust each other equally and perfectly.
Even in sexual intimacy this rule applies. Once a couple surrender any need to control the encounter or each other true bliss is achieved. In surrendering their mind’s control they allow their heart’s energy to direct the encounter. To give and receive pleasure equally. Could it be that Lilith could see far into the future and that modern society needs to believe in Lilith more than in Eve???
I am hopeful at least in a small way that this website will continue with the message of Lilith. It is my intention that the models depicted in our galleries will project an image of style passion and grace..that their eyes will speak the truth that they are secure and empowered women who value everyone but need no one.
taken from the philosophy section of my website www.bodylinecal.com
BYRON
I think the story of Lillith says a lot about the church really…
A free thinking independant woman who consideres herself the equal of men is portrayed as evil.
Says it all really.
Church = degradation of women.
Tony Ryan replied
Hi Byron,
Tend to agree re the church although I am sure that there are still some great individuals within them. I think these days that both sexes are lacking empowerment. Men seem to want to possess and women seem colder than they have ever been probably as a reaction to men’s attempts to control them.
butchart
i agree with your line of thought tony.. but here’s my twist… being a gay man i see the same struggle for posession and control in the homosexual perspective…. so is it truly a sexual concern…or at it’s basest level is it more of a tale of the human condition….........b
Tony Ryan replied
Hi Butch,
I have written it as a hetrosexual piece but truly agree with you that it is a people problem. I believe somewhere we forgot that true joy is from equality and freedom not domination and control. This extends to all human interaction from parent/child through all of our other associations even with animals and nature.
butchart
agreed
tkrosevear
I think you are the first male, that I’ve read mentioning Lilith, her strength and the energies related to her archetype – THANK YOU ;)
Tony Ryan replied
I am very very passionate about the Lilith story. I so believe that she is so important to where humans are presently at. That if we honour her message and energy that we can attain peace and joy.
tkrosevear
Most definitely, the sacred feminine within us all, gives us the power to face challenges with strength, courage and clarity – guiding and protecting us every step of the way – SHE/LILITH brings us into alignment with personal power and Universal laws and truths…
Good to meet you Tony ;)
stephanie clifton
oh tony tony tony. little did i expect when i opened my bubble mailbox that i would be so graciously loved and respected there. thank you deeply.
i was introduced to lillith several months ago by a woman astrologer who told me that i have to master the lillith in myself before i can meet an equal partner. it is the work of all women to step up to meet themselves with complete respect for their own masculine and feminine and quit looking outward for this from a man or partner playing that role. this is a beginning when we can talk about it. then we can begin to work together in order to see the change we want. .....SIMPLE RESPECT AND EQUALITY.
aloha.
Tony Ryan replied
So like what your astrologer friend said about finding Lilith first prior to meeting an equal partner. Really love the Lilith energy and am working so deeply myself to prepare myself to meet my Lilith.
stephanie clifton
lucky lillith….one day…once upon a time. i am just happy to know of a man who knows of and cares to work with this important piece of US. thanks, ryan, for existing!!
Pip Gerard
I find it impossible to believe that the bible has survived so long without any manipulation by human kind… so I find it impossible to put my complete trust and faith into it.
However I find it easy and natural to put my trust and faith in God, Nature and in the soul and heart of the person that was Jesus. My faith is in the representation of the positive and loving human being that was Jesus.
I agree that we all need to start looking at equality in all things…sexes, races, religions, environment…. everywhere! And big change in the world only comes from being made aware of these things… talking… debating and having it in our thoughts so it slowly begins to become part of our beliefs and way of thinking. So what I like about the Lillith story and in you Tony… is that all this will generate thought and talk of equality between men and woman… if not in everything …. and that is a wonderful thing.
Thank You Tony.
Pip :)
Tony Ryan replied
Hi Pip,
Thanks for your words on this piece. I very much agree with your sentiments. I really believe that each person has the best gospel inside their own hearts. Deep inside we do I believe have direct communication with God, Jesus, nature and each other. We just have to prioritise going deep rather than following society peer pressures and expectations.
Best Wishes Tony.
Ushna Sardar
Tony Ryan replied
Thanks very much for the feature Ushna. Hope you are well.
Astoreth
Hi Tony, I’m so blown away by your message here. I was very conditioned as a youngster that I HAD to find a partner that did everything for me….it really went against my grain in a big way and I don’t know why. It is very hard to de-programme oneself from the “Cinderella Syndrome” After many years alone I have come to realise that I first and foremost need to be the Lillith that you describe so beautifully, before I can be anything to anyone else. I work on this every day and after reading this I really think that becoming Lillith deserves my heart and soul. Thank you so much for your beautiful and inspiring words!!!
Tony Ryan replied
Thanks so much for sharing your words with me. I love Lilith and what she stands for. I too am realising how my soul mate joy will only be fully respected once I am secure within myself. I believe that for any of us to truly love another with full freedom that need must be understood and pacified.
ArcadiaTempest
This is so empowering to women and to men…...I have done a lot of ’ personal growth’ work to make friends with my own self worth without feeling a) conceited about it or B) timid and shy. Finding our way to be connected to our inner truth….is fraught with social trappings….I know I sure get caught up in them….I am still working on me…and I have a long way to come. I grabble with who I am these days….particularly if I take away my many ‘Hats’....your words are a wonderful reminder to all of us to find the simple beauty in our lives…..as corny as it sounds but the Beetles were singing it years ago ” All you need is Love” Bless XXX
Tony Ryan replied
Thanks so much for reading and commenting. I can understand the trappings you mention. I am finding that the energy I feel from others is just as difficult to deal with as are the actions and words. I believe that many in society have lost faith in love and honesty and that this sorrow anmd frustration is reflected in their emotions and energy.
deepbluwater
Thank you, Tony, for your words here and for exploring so deeply the balance of power, sexuality & acceptance within ourselves and in our relationships with others. There is so much to be explored and learned here throughout every aspect and stage in our lives. Thank you again for reintroducing me to Lilith and her story…
Tony Ryan replied
Appreciate your taking the time to read and comment on my piece. It is obviously my particular Lilith perception but one that touches my life passionately.
Best Wishes Tony.
Earhart Chappe...
i found this today by accident. i did not know you knew of lilith. earhart and i worked on a series of photos of lilith, adam and eve. some that i have still yet to edit even though we shot them in 2008. i wrote of lilith as well. her strength, and her demonetization in religions. i am ever so happy to see you noticed her as well and found something in her story.—chappel
Tony Ryan replied
Feel much of Lilith’s passion and strength in your energy. Also feel a little of her pain due to how her environment did not go deep enough to get her.
DragonFlyer
And – I found this today because TC faved it… It seems strange to me that I have done an incredible amount of work on human development but had NEVER heard what the actual story of Lilith was… I suppose I am very ‘distant’ from any organised form of religion’...
From your writing, it seems to me that Lilith had a wisdom that was in fact rejected for most of human history – but it’s a wisdom that is essential for a true connection with our own humanity that goes deeper than this material and physical world we live in…
K xxx
Tony Ryan replied
Love how you have iterpreted my writing. Your words express beautifully the vision I have of Lilith and how she is so important as an inspiration for human nature.
-Lilith-
How GOOD to read this about me!!!
:-)