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"Putting them in a home".

Cathleen Tarawhiti kindly wrote a comment on my photo (of the visit to the nursing home, where my father is in respite care, ). Namely, that I had a nice momento now to remember the day by.
However, I shall remember the day with mixed emotions.
Times were a-changing.
Roles were reversing.
My now grown-up children drove me to the home.
My now grown-up children demonstrated their understanding and care, as we left my father – bitterly expressing his disgust at not being taken with us.

(Out of his sight, in the corridor, they both,instinctively put an arm around me.)

Many, many times, particularly recently, he has expressed his deep gratitude for the care that I have given him. But, at that moment, there was a complete about-face and I was letting him down; not taking him home!

Believe me!

In these last 11 years on the internet I have very often had fellow email group members and others roll off their chair with laughter, at the things that they’ve seen, coming from me, via their computers. .
But, right now, there’s this situation.

Thirteen years ago, when she was about 77, my mother’s alzheimers became so bad that the best thing to do was to come and live here and help my parents. (They were born in the same town, a fortnight apart, in 1917. Met each other in 1930 or ’31.)

I was the one who needed to eventually find her a nursing home and visit her at least every second day. I was with her, at the last. The two of us, in that nursing home.

(Unfortunately a staff member looked into the room and said: " How’s she doin’? " I went outside for a while.)

After all that, I ought not to feel bad about leaving my father, on fathers day, complaining about being left in the care of professionals.

Thank goodness for my kids and a very pleasant fathers day dinner with them and their mother (after the visit).

I know! As my father likes to say so often: “But I shouldn’t complain. There are many people worse off(sic)."

And he’s right.

And 90 “is a good age!”

( I am motivated to let this go after reading some general comments in the RedBubble forum and not at all directed at me.
This bit of writing may not be high art but this rite of passage is probably familiar to a few of you.)

Don’t migrate to a foreign country, somewhat late in life, with just one child.
They may pick up the language quicker than you. That’s nature and they may need to help you in the beginning and then again, at the end.

"Putting them in a home".

Ozcloggie

Ramsgate Beach, Australia

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In these last 11 years on the internet I have very often had fellow email group members and others roll off their chair with laughter, at the things that they’ve seen, coming from me, via their computers. .
But, right now, there’s this situation.

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