You know, I would have thought after 7 months in a relationship a phone call at least. I mean, it was only days before this that she was saying how lucky she felt that a guy had finally come into her life wanting more than just sex.
In 7 months, this was my first weekend away from her. I had to clean the house to inspection specifications because the lease was up and the landlord wanted to move in herself. Late on Sunday night the message came through.
Look, I knew she was having a girl’s night out. And for me, I thought that is something she did not do enough of. Her life seemed to be wrapped around me.
I was surprised. The message said she had met someone on Friday night and wanted to pursue that relationship, and that she felt there was no spark in ours. For which I blame myself. I seem to get in a relationship and get comfortable. I make no demands and want the other person to feel unpressured and free of any nastiness. I simply do not have the personality to expect anything. I am grateful to have someone. I was raised by feminists who wanted women to be treated equally and not to be housebound and domesticated.
Somewhere along the line I have lost the plot. I really do not know how to treat women. I just cannot be rude and nasty to them. I feel sorry for them in a way, because I know how they are treated in the mainstream world.
But readers, this is the 4th time I have been dumped by SMS. And you know what … I prefer getting dumped that way. That way I don’t have to deal with my grief in the face of someone who has obviously moved on.
And I guess that is why they do it. They have moved on and do not want a confrontation or to deal with someone who might cry.
So I figure, maybe this is like a business transactions. Maybe my reply should be professional and commercial. I have to do better than “It’s OK. I understand. Hope things work out XXX”. Maybe drop the “XXX” for a start.
What do you think.
Getting dumped by SMS seems to be a popular Break Up Song these days. Is it fair, is reasonable. In a way I prefer being dumped by text messaging.