Love Sex and Devotion - Not necessarily in that order
I knew a couple who were passionate. Passionate in every way….they loved hard, and they fought hard.
It wasn’t a match made in heaven, really. She was over a decade older than he. But it was one of those physical, sexual, breathing each other’s air kinda things….They danced naked in the dark, late into the night….they had “a song”, they had the champagne and chocolate and strawberries in bed…...He wanted her to be his shadow…and that was the beginning…
They fought. A lot. He told her that fights were not about “working things out” as she believed, they were about winning…so he won….everytime. She, who is independent, opinionated, self confident…..wound up crying alot….emotionally hurt….and he would comfort her….after he won.
She knew what that was….but she stayed.
He was a really good man in so many ways….Generous…..lively….so intelligent….but sad. Always felt he was a failure, because his choices kept him away from what he felt he should have been…a doctor….a SOMEBODY.
He made a good living…..he had his expensive hobbies and expensive toys….life was not bad….but never was he happy….He always wanted more. He wanted more sex….parties…..more money…...
Her past was unstable, and emotionally draining…..He gave her stability…he made her feel beautiful….he loved her child and her family….gradually they stopped the fighting….they grew accustomed to each other’s differences…..She grew to trust him over time. He was her hero, her rock…her house made out of bricks…..
After a decade with this man….they bought a home to work on together…they built things that go with a bonded life…..the swing and sandbox for the delightful granddaughter who believed her Papa hung the stars and the moon, and the feeling was mutual. They didn’t go as many places together as they used to…her schedule changed, and they had less time off together. The sex slowed to an average, and life was pleasant…
The parties grew less frequent, she had never truly cared for them….Family became more important and her camera….he still had his hunting trips and his fishing trips, and she had her interests…..Still, she adored her husband…often after talking to friends…feeling so so lucky to have found him…..
One day, she found out he’d been smoking for a month…and she didn’t know, ‘til he told her…..she was shocked….how could she not know? And why had he started again after 10 years??? She felt blindsided….What was going on with him…...premonition flashed…and was gone…....so she talked to him, and cried…hearing that it was stress…stress at home, not enough money, not seeing her enough, and stress at work…he hates his job…...
Then comes the “lightening bolt”. Out of a mostly clear sky….He isn’t happy with their sex life….Her world was rocked from under her….More revelations followed….He wasn’t happy at all in his life….He didn’t know if he’d be able to stay….The pain is so great, she’s terrified it will crush her from the weight of it….her lungs can’t pull air….and she feels lightheaded and confused….Nothing makes sense any longer….How can he say he loves her….but may not stay???
Everything seems as a dream…too unreal….too frightening…..too much pain….The world is in fog…and she feels she’s drowning….or falling….nothing is clear or makes sense…..the meaning is …...........gone….it’s leaving with him…......
Then she sees the bottle….
Phil Threlfall
Some people can turn love on and off like a tap. I am not one of them.
After a river of tears, she will gradually climb from the valley.
Anni Morris
This very well written Ginger. I think some people find it hard to be happy, they long and strive for it but it eludes them. Perhaps they feel more comfortable with misery because it is familiar to them. How many times have we all heard, “you can’t love anyone until you learn to love yourself?” We teach people how to treat us don’t we? If we keep on taking abuse, that’s what will be served up. ~ Anni
JuliaWright
WoW!!.....awesome read…how true to life in these modern times!
Very well written Ginger!
Sharon Perrett
Amazing writing Ginger, I felt the emotion as I read the words, I wanted to cry too. Very powerful and moving.
lefty1
wow, so riveting! excellent work Ginger, wonder how many times this scene is played out in real life! Joe Tex once sang a song, “Hold On To What You Got!” Great piece of advice to all!
dawndavies
well done, suberb in every way, dawnx
chasingsooz
Behind closed doors in the “happiest” of marriages are couples like these two. Lack of time, money, sex are all a powder keg, ready to explode at any moment.
Much more to say but I wont. Your words strike at the heart and leave me hoping that the couple in your story remember why they initially burned for each other and then find ways to re kindle the flames xox.
Lori Peters
Beautifullly written, Ginger. This is probably a lot more common than most people think. It is the worst kind of pain. xo
Helene Kippert
This is so well written ginger and so moving
valzart
Wonderfully profound writing sweetheART lovely 2seeya kiddio longtimenosee lol! ;} happy hippy hugglez
Gili Orr
Not the bottle!! Please!!! OK, OK… Well-written, moving… the more she finds herself and the better things are for her, the more apart they grow (or the other way around), and the less satisfied he is. Not a match from heaven, but lots of feelings, longing, admiration and the need to be admired… and there are always the good moments and the attraction and all kind of underlying needs… Not easy, eh? But she is a strong woman and she will survive!