Thinking, pondering, assessing
Thinking, pondering, assessing belongs to the following groups:
Backyard Macro and Closeups (3 a day), Birds and Creatures of Flight, Black with a hint of colour, contrasting perceptions HELP WANTED NEED CO HOST TO RUN CHALLENGES APPLY IN THE FORUMS. THANKS, Everyday Life, Friendly General Discussion , Friends of RedBubble, Liverpool, This is England and United Kingdom- As I gaze around me, listening to others speak and I begin to learn why others have their opinions and beliefs, I begin to see patterns.
He has at one time been bullied used as someone else’s emotional beating stick. This all started as a child, the other children were able to see him as unsure and weary, when he was asked questions “what do you like to play”. They were greeted with silence, he was unable to answer, will they like the same as him, should he say incase they laugh? He was unsure about what was best to say, he thought and pondered. The other children found this strange and saw him as different, with time they become less acccepting. That was the start of the teasing and taunting. The Boy by now had become more weary, he was so unsure why this was happening, he has not been mean to anyone, so why?
He leaves school after enduring what seems life a life time of hurt, hoping to move on, meet other people who he hopes are more accepting, patient. He has learned with time to hide his hurt.
The same pattern repeats itself, he becomes the victim again. This time its co workers and the boss.
Confidence can make or break a person. Confident people can unknowingly start a precidence, a small comment or gesture towards another. This will start a cycle of behaviour from followers who are not as confident but wish to be seen as such they take it to the next stage. the cycle has begun.
Unknowingly, we are like age old packs of animals, we follow peers, the leaders and unconsiously do something we all say we would not. It seems so unheard of to behave this way.
Think hard and you will find that as a person you have been on one side or the other.
- NONE OF THE ABOVE IS FACTUAL, AS SUCH THE INTENTION IS NOT TO CAUSE UPSET, THIS IS JUST TO INSIGHT THOUGHTS.
Thank you for taking the time to read this
laureenr
Very insightful Kim. My daughter yesterday told me about a boy at school who loves to humiliate others and how this led to one girl having to go to counselling for her weight as she had taken his opinion so to heart. This reminds me of that. Thanks for sharing this Kim. We should all think about others before causing harm.
Kimberley Davitt replied
Thank you sweet Laureen
barnsis
Well written and so correct, I have dealt with so many of these types of situations in my life as a teacher. Never judge until you know all the facts is my motto. Then judge with kindness and gentle compassion.
Kimberley Davitt replied
Very true
sometimes even with the best intentions, I know some times emotions can take control and situations are not dealt with well.
wayatsagi
This is so true – it hits the nail on the head. Alot more people should be conscience of what they say and do to others. Wonderful reading… thank you for sharing it with us. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Judge not – less you be judged.
Kimberley Davitt replied
Thank you, so true
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rubyjo
we all want to think we are strong enough to not follow the path of our peers and get drawn into this behavior of bullying or hurtful picking on the weaker or the less confident- but there is always someone weaker or less confident and we have all done it at some point in our lives, even if it was grade school. hopefully we learn it doesnt give power, rather it takes away from the soul of both the victim and the bullier. nice piece here Kim, thought provoking.
Kimberley Davitt replied
Thank you so much, for taking the time to read and comment