This is how it is when I am my best.
I do not lead. Leading happens through me. I am part of a process that has a beginning and an end, but I do not know exactly when, or where, that process begins and ends.
It is a small world I am in and I am in it with you. Something happens between us and it moves me. If it moves you too we have had some success.
That world is our relationship and our connection in that world, when something moves us or we learn something, we can call it leadership.
It is very important to be loose and receptive. Only when we are loose and receptive can we receive what it is that has to pass through us both, only then can we truly be a part of a larger process.
If we are not accepting of this spark that happens between us, we are only repeating a way we have always related, a way that is governed by our history, our egos and our habits.
When we are open to the life that is in both of us, life will tell us where to go. We must listen, honor what is happening in the seconds between us and confess who we are.
We must ask ourselves: does a lie exist? Does a pretense exist? Does something hidden exist; exist in the way that is known to both of us and alive in the relationship? Perhaps only the truth exists, waiting to be shown to you and me.
Let us then engage in a search for what is real between us and trust that the truth will lead us to something new, something that will change us forever.
A moment in leadership