jaycee

So often in this day and age
We get uptight and stressed from daily life
Our days are so full up
That we forget about what truly is important.
This is where many have a tendancy,
instead of dealing with their stresses,
or looking at what they personally are doing
they take it out on others

Whether it be insulting another for doing something that you don’t particularly like
Or
Being impatient in a car, behind someone in a line, not being able to get past someone when they walk slow.
Not understanding anothers point of view,
Responding sharply to people when they are talking to you etc

Getting angry with everyone because deep down you hate your job, your life, your house, your everything,
Or
Thinking the world is against you, that you will never be happy,
Thinking it is ok to take these feelings out on others.

At the end of the day, our feelings are our own responsibility. Someone may say or do something you do not like, but your response, your feelings are not what they created, they are your perception on a situation, your response, and truly, we have to recognise and own that this part of a situation is our responsibility and no one elses.

Something bad happens to you, it doesn’t mean that everyone else should feel the brunt of that, so dealing with others with respect regardless of how you feel, should be the way it is.

If you really hate your job, well what are you doing? Why are you staying there? Because you have to pay for that house? that car? a family? Well at the end of the day, you are the one that has to live with the decision to fill your life with things you do not enjoy, you have to take responsibility on how that affects others within your life. Your life is your own, no material possession should run it, money should not run it, YOU should run it. Make a personal decision to change your life to what you want, your family and everyone around you will also benefit as you are deciding to change your journey and improve it.

Look at how you respond to situations. Recognise that something might effect you or maybe that situation seems to hard, well you know that if you can’t deal with something straight away, then consider thinking, well is this something I have to deal with today? If it is, then make an issue of finding a way of dealing with it so it will not cause you undue stress, dont’ avoid as it will only work your stress up even further. If it can be put off, then recognise that what is important, is right now, today this very moment, and schedule that issue in on a day that you feel you may be able to deal with it.

Take the time to smell the flowers, you know that old saying. Well its true, that moment in time can be just the refresher you need. Actually it is crucial to make the time for this.

For too long now we think that our purpose in life is to get a career a car a house etc, have the two point five kids a pet dog and cat. Well come on, really, if you really think about it, these things were not around in the beginning of time, life was not about this, and it never was, never will. These are material gains, things that are worthless to us in all reality.

The things that are important, and believe me when I say, you can have the happiest life being poor, money is only a tool, yes maybe an essential tool for the lives we lead. But what is important, is that moment you take listening to a child, having a cuppa with a friend at a cafe, patting the cat, hugging your children, your parents, your grandparents. Spending time with those you love, making a nice meal for some friends, comforting a loved one in a time of need. You don’t know how long these people will be a part of your life, you will not miss their BMW when they are gone, you will miss them.

When we all come to the unavoidable time in our lives called death, do you really think that we are thinking about how we didn’t get that plasma tv, or that brand new car? NO!!! We are thinking, I could have treated this person better, or made more time for this person, did my kids truly know that I loved them? (Kids are more interested in spending time with their parents, than getting that brand new Xbox 360)

We are so wrapped up in something that is not real, is this because of a fear of what life may be truly about, what others will think of us, that if we take time to look at ourselves we might not like what we see, hiding from the inevitable – death?

Its time to review and recognise what is important!!!