Love unbounded by Reason.
Love more eternal than Seasons.
Flowing and healing as water,
No less for son than daughter.
“Protect the child” the only Law!
“And Yet…” I hear the Raven caw
“Each must their own choices make,
Their Will must the journey shape.
Let them Fly or Fall as they will,
You cannot take their place on the Hill.”
Wolf, great teacher, cries with me.
“Truth is seldom free!
Some lessons must be learned
others still must be earned.
You taught the cub as best you might
The rest is now for him to fight.”
These truths I cannot deny
“And Yet…” is still my Hearts reply.
It is never easy to let our children go, but perhaps especially so when we see the painful lessons they are running headlong towards. The young are so certain of what they think they know, so certain that we as their elders have no advice worth heeding.
Learning otherwise is often painful for them and for us. Mothers are hardwired to care about their children, and it is perhaps our greatest challenge to simply let go and trust that we have done all we can to properly prepare them for their life journey. There is always that small dark doubt within our hearts that encourages us to continue worrying about their well being, despite the mind’s assurance that our job is done and it is up to them now. We’ve spent their lifetime up to that point immersed in our parental instincts, and it will take awhile to adjust to this new mode of necessary thinking.
Holding on and attempting to help or warn is about as effective as picking up a hot coal out of the fire with our bare hands simply because we know it will burn to best effect elsewhere in the fire. They must learn for themselves. Let go, and concentrate on your own life. Go beyond that ingrained instinct, and simply let go. It takes great love and great courage, but is, in the end, the best choice. In fact, letting go may be the greatest act of love and the most valuable lesson we can offer to our children.