I get involved in a lot of projects with a lot of different people who request…and pay for…my help to launch their careers, their lives, their websites, their projects, their businesses. I get requests to help reorganize and to salvage business ventures, and I’m very good at it. However, there is a sticking point, and that sticking point is this: I can give them tools, I can give them how-to, I can show them methods, I can analyze and outline successful methods to streamline their operations and increase productivity. I can guide — point the way, give them a roadmap… — but what I can’t do is make them do it.
I cannot force someone or many someones to do, rather than to remain idle. I cannot change their habits. I cannot maintain their motivation for them. And I cannot make them a success despite themselves. …Well, I can, but I won’t.
I have “made” people, businesses, projects, building them up to high levels of success, but the minute I turn the project loose, guess what happens? It dives to its old levels of “muddle.” I stopped doing that years ago, though. Now, they pay me money, I show them, set it up, prove it, then allow them to make the difference. And most don’t. They just don’t have that spark inside them to “make it happen.” It’s very sad.
There is a sculptress I know. Her work is, in a word, phenomenal. Yet, she cannot…will not pursue success, even though success is, for all intents and purposes, in her hand. She has the contract; she won’t sign with the very big company who has offered her a very lucrative deal for her work. Why? Lack of faith? Maybe. Fear? Yes. More so, though, she absolutely does not want to commit herself to herself. She doesn’t want to believe in herself, and, in essence, sign a contract with herself that mandates self-motivated discipline.
Just musings this morning because I’ve made a decision to drop a client.