Prettier Than Me

She’s prettier than me
Prettier, they all agree
So many everyday beauty queens
Everybody! Everybody but me

Catching his gaze easily
A vision to be seen
Her shining hair and perfect body
Wide eyes of blue, brown, or green

She walks a steady, graceful gait
Her smile is broad and straight
So lovely, people stop and stare
Her kind is everywhere

Where does that leave a girl like me—
With the other “noteworthy” qualities?
“She’s so funny; she’s so smart”
“Such a nice girl, with such a big heart”

Will that make him look my way?
Or fantasize that I’m his perfect date?
No, she has his attention for keeps
And my “big heart” weeps

I war against the mirror
My reflection staring back in fear…
They’re all so pretty,
Prettier than me

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Featured in Everyday Women

This is something I wrote a while back but finally got around to putting on Red Bubble.

I wrote this to capture how a woman can feel so insecure in our culture of magazine beauty queens. It can eventually get to the point where one thinks that everyone but the self better fits the Hollywood standard of beauty. When so much emphasis is place on the physical attractiveness of a woman, it’s very hard to believe that other compliments are worthwhile in attracting and keeping a man.

For me personally, the “steady, graceful gait” in the poem holds a personal meaning, because I have a disability that impairs my balance.

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feminism, body issues, pretty, self esteem, looking glass self, beauty, noteworthy, qualities, perfect, perfection, flaws, shortcomings, self concept, self acceptance, self, woman, girl, media, love, competition, misery, tears, rhyme

Alicia Evans is a tenacious writer/artist from Detroit, MI. She spends her time confused about why the sky is falling and how to hold it up. When she’s not not doing that, she likes to eat strawberry flavored dairy products and create all kinds of cool stuff.

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Comments

  • Giggly-me
    Giggly-meover 3 years ago

    This is such a beautiful write … I find myself feeling this way on so many occasions. You did a fab job on this :) I love this xoxoxox

  • Thank you so much!! but you are beautiful! xoxo

    – DeeLishess

  • Giggly-me
    Giggly-meover 3 years ago

  • thank you so much! i really did write this from the heart years ago. i have only recently felt safe enough to bring it out into the daylight. This is my first feature EVER, and i am beyond honored to be a part of your fabulous group. again, i thank you.

    – DeeLishess

  • mss3
    mss3over 3 years ago

    I so get what you’re saying and you have to know that you are beautiful and wonderful! The line that sums this verse for me “Her kind is everywhere”….and you’re right. That to me is boring and predictable….takes a smart man to see and want the beautiful that stands before him. I want the smart man that sees the beauty inside/outside that we bring. I would leave the stupid man in the dirt:) I loved this verse! xo – E

  • thank you. :-) and don’t worry: i got my smart man, and you will too. because i’m proof they exist! you’re gorgeous!

    – DeeLishess

  • Jan Pudney
    Jan Pudneyover 3 years ago

    If ‘he’ can only see external beauty and not what lies within – you don’t need him :)

  • agreed. i didn’t. ;-)

    – DeeLishess

  • Anna Shaw
    Anna Shawover 3 years ago

    Sincere Congratulations

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    Anna, Sybille & Jenifer

  • Thank you so much for the feature! I am so very honored to be a part of your magazine in the first place, but then to be noticed in this way has made my night!

    – DeeLishess

  • Jascie Epinn
    Jascie Epinnover 3 years ago

    This is exactly how I feel, though from a slightly different perspective that I’m sure you can relate to. This, I’ve run over in my mind, more in my younger years – where my heart lied in my acne, hunched shoulders and awkward feet. Now, I feel as though I meet people who are attracted to me for all the wrong reasons. I’ve had guys confess “love” for me who say they’ve “known” me yet never give me the opportunity to show the best of myself, everything flies away on that first judgment. We live in such a shallow world.

  • i’m sorry they’ve treated you so badly. i definitely related to this when i wrote it. i was single and always second best. everyone else in the world seemed to be coming in first. but then i gave up on trying to impress others. instead, i chose to do what made me happy. that’s when i met my fiance. i was in just jeans and a t shirt. wearing my glasses. no makeup. luckily my hair was clean. but yeah, he got to know me for who i was, who i am. i decided not to wear makeup on the first date either. that didn’t stop him from liking, and very soon after loving, me the way i am.

    so now that i’m not so vulnerable to those feelings anymore, i can share this piece with the world. i’m glad it could inspire you. know that you are lovely inside and out!

    – DeeLishess

  • Jascie Epinn
    Jascie Epinnover 3 years ago

    I find it really dignifying and inspiring that you met your love wearing street clothes, and went to your first date wearing no make-up. It shows the heart of a true individual, someone who lives off of solidarity and not what their name brand clothes or fancy things or physical exterior can provide for them. Your fiance truly loves you.

  • yes, he does. :-) and i love him. he came just when i’d truly lost my faith and trust in men. in a way, he saved me from myself.

    – DeeLishess

  • Zi-O
    Zi-Oover 3 years ago

    When I was younger, it was all about looks, as that was my self esteem. Today, while my appearance still matters via degrees the importance has diminished greatly. AND oh boy am I happy it did.

    To me being able to truly accept and like who you are regardless of appearances, intelligence, talent, looks, etc. etc is the greatest blessing any one can possess and frankly I believe it is the key to peace and happiness. I haven’t reached that plateau yet, but I’m getting there! grin I enjoyed reading your piece…..
  • Mishmu
    Mishmuover 3 years ago

    Lish, I think every woman, no matter her beauty, can relate to the insecurities we all feel. You capture this so well in your poem. There is someone special for each of us – if only we believe.

  • mordechai
    mordechaiabout 3 years ago

    From a “nice guy”, my congratulations on an excellent expression of what is..

  • Wow! thanks for the feature! I’m so honored! thanks, “nice guy” :)

    – DeeLishess

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