Please Explain...
Where are your dreams, your aspirations, your hopes and desires?
What cuts you, what bleeds you, what twists you in awe and pain?
What is your rationale for living – for sharing the air I breath, for getting out of bed, for smiling?
What is it you yearn, you learn, you envision in your future?
What is it you fear, you hear, you run away from in your past?
How do you survive, keep alive, thrive – in a treacherous, scabrous, deceptive, cloyingly sweet world?
Can you see? Can you trust? Do you care?
Do you Love?
Do you Really Love?
marieancolie
It would easier for me to say it in French .. but I try to explain.
“from challenges and hard times, good things always come”
if I don’t receive an expected smile, instead of being hurted or disappointed .. i offer mine and then, I find another source of joy, even temporarily.
We can’t help being disappointed, or with the envy to throw everything away sometimes, but looking aside is very helpful too.
So many events harm our life nowadays. Just trying to be happy day after day, helping who needs, in the way I can, offering my hand, and never forgetting that all the help I can give today, I must do.
What hurt me the most ?? too many things to be listed, but I am chocked when I see entires hospitals dedicated to children..
One more thing …. I have always a word married with my heart ….. I love you...
you known, or unknown. just be ready to say it.
Press the hand of a suffering person, smile and say it. Believe me mark, I did… Just do it.
From your inner joy, you can transmit more and more.
However.. sometimes, you need a shoulder too.. I do :))
Hope this helps mark. It may nob be in correct language, but my feelings are expressed there.
Mark German
I understand you perfectly, Marie, never mind the language.
Do you believe that to know love, you must first know hurt?
I am not just talking about person to person love, but love in general.
marieancolie
When you have been” injured” you value more and more love.
Talking by experience, in my day by day life, and private too.
No need to be hurt in priority Mark.
However, some of us are more fragile than others, They did not know how to protect themselves….. then they suffer first :) but they love strongly and for longer.
And this in each act of the life.
I believe you understand me.
Mark German
Yes, I do understand you, Marie :)
Suzanne German
I like what you’ve written Mark….very ‘real’....when you say ‘you’ are ever saying ‘i’ as well?...of course you are! as if you can live through life into adulthood unscathed…nobody does…but like Marieancole says…it’s a bit of a yin and yang thing …(well I feel like this sometimes at least)...that each contains its opposite…no darness without light – otherwise what is the contrast? no love without knowing its opposite…no happiness…etc..ad infinitum….but I like the depth and the thought and feeling you’ve put in this.
xS
Suzanne German
oops…’darness’ should have read ‘darkness’...that is there is no light without darkness – the contrast is essential – the opposite of its self…each contains its opposite…love and its mirror opposite….loved and hurt – living side by side…perhaps even inside us all a bit like…’the dmaged and intact self living side by side’ (this is actually balance)...but when we are in the grips of a ‘transcending’ or transforming emotional experience…it can be so many things can’t it? I think the hardest thing is to deny the feelings…it takes so much more effort keeping them suppressed than it does to have them. And having deep strong feelings (whether happy or sad) is so much more alive than not…so to all who have felt, hurt, loved, won, lost, laughed and cried – Long live Love!!!
Mark German
As in….there is little definition or meaning without contrast in an image... ?
:)
peteyeti
Mark, nice inital piece and good interaction after that – nice to read – I like conversations like this. Am a firm believer that yo uhave to go ‘through the mill’ as it were to appreciate what is like on the other side. When you get 2 people who come out of an unhealthy relationship they invariably (history and personality dependant) will know how they don’t want to be treated again and whe they meet someone with a similar background – they tend to treat each other really well as they know how it feel to be on the receiving end of an unpleasant liaison.
I feel there are 2 types of people in this world – and no sexual pun intended here – there are takers and givers. 2 takers together will probably last but will lead very shallow and unfulfilling lives giving nothing to anyone and appreciating little – 2 givers together will lead a fine life together with mutual repsect etc. The damage comes when you get a taker and a giver together – as the giver will end up hurt and invariably it won’t last as they will the taker as a selfish self centred indivudal which goes against the grain of the giver’s character.
Suzanne German
hi Mark..yes…and more of what i mean by that is in my latest ‘blog’.... x
bellmusker
My desire is to be able to wake up one morning and BREATHE, breathe in deeply and fully and not be afraid of what that entails.
What cuts me, what bleeds me, is the fear that accompanies such breathing now.
What helps me survive, thrive? So, so much…...Noticing every blessing sent my way. A handwritten letter in my mailbox, a funky bassline, the incredible smell of brewing coffee, the late afternoon sunshine spilling over Melbourne as I train home, the beauty of Mahalia Jackson’s voice, the itch in my fingertips that means words are coming. Simple, subtle, sensual joys that are easy to miss, yet so important to acknowledge.
I agree with the concept of light and dark, and the lessons that they can both teach us. I’m fascinated by the concept of the Underworld, by the regeneration that can often accompany coming back above ground. The trick is believing that you CAN emerge again. And remembering how to breathe.
Like Leunig says: “any life lived well enough is nothing else but ongoing rehabilitation. Every breath, every musical moment or daydream could be rehabilitating – if it’s sincere.”
Mark German
Beautifully said.
Suzanne German
hey bellmusker – lovely words – thought provoking – i felt what you wrote there and i agree with what you said….about the little things acknowledging them and remembering how to really breathe and believing that we can even when we’ve been underwater too long to believe we can resurface and breathe again…
the leunig bit reminds me of something the buddha said about living a life worth living so that when you we are old we can live it a second time in our memory… :))