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I see I will have to make the first comment on this poem!
Well Dave its a really sad poem but so true.
Many men struggle with violence every day and its time we take responsibility and say enough!
Thank you for taking time to bring this topic up and out in the open! Its a topic we try to avoid but its something that everyone of us has heard about or has a family member who’s been effected by this type of violence in their life at some time,or knows someone who has been directly affected by this.

A beautiful flower and a very well written poem, and a sad fact of life that happens way to often and causes so much spiritual damage to all family members involved in domestic violence… As I said before David, you are full of surpises…Bravo for you for speaking out on this subject:)

He is a sad,sad little man!!... The perfect picture for the poem David, such a sad subject.

This is very strong stuff. Great writing, and the flower is very beautiful. Agnes:))

It is easy to say that this man was wrong and bad. It is awful what he did, of course! But removing his wife or even if he had been put in jail will NOT change the behavior. There is so much that we do not know or understand about the human mind. We cannot point fingers and shut our eyes. There must be a reason that this man is prone to this behavior. No one will disagree that a man beating his wife is wrong but there is much controversy about how to stop the behavior. This man needs to relearn a pattern which may be how he deals with the angry issues that causes him to “fly off the handle”. He is sick and needs help. Removing his wife from the situation did not teach him anything except maybe to be MORE forceful next time. It is very sad indeed.

The flower is closed up tight, no emotion can get in. I do believe that is how it is for people like this. They do not understand their own behavior and if they could, most would change it. I applaud you David for not skirting the tough issues. :)

Made me nervous at first I thought you were gonna hit me!LOL
Hey Judi hes sitting there alone for 5 years alone! I think he might be seeing the light thats why hes not calling.
Maybe I make a poem where hes going the get help!
Its been 2 years since she left I decided to get some help.
This anger that I have for women came directly from my dad!
Hows that?
Most of these guys are too blind to their problems so they will just continue until a lighting bolt wakes them up and what’s the chance of getting hit by lighting?
Well there you go.

Sorry, I got on my soap box … I am chilling now with a cool orange tea !! Just shining up the mustang ….

Love the picture Mr D! The poem is great as well. Sometimes I wonder where you get this stuff. Its great work. Touches a cord for alot of people and good for you to put it out there.

Beautiful flower David….

Nice work David!

Beautiful picture dear and great poem , damn it you brought tears to my eyes ! Maybe it hits a little close to home for me and what my life has been like at times .
Thankyou for sharing it … its fabulous
Bright Blessings xoxox :0)

Amazing poem David that makes me realise how lucky I am…..I suppose we can take our partners for granted and then something like this comes along which makes you think…

I have a dear friend who went through an abusive marriage, she was lucky and got out. Now the beatings have stopped but the abuse continues in different ways. So dispite your characters remorse the sad truth is that he wouldn’t change anyway!

The photo makes me think of a big purple bruise…not only on the body but on the spirit!

Oh my goodness, David, how beautiful is your flower, and a powerful and well written poem :)

beautifull flower,very good poem, a sad story, unfortunately we hear this to much where we live here in The Kimberleys, its a massive problem and soo sad! well done Dave, i hope it will reach ‘someone’..

What a beautiful flower, i agree with hippydi that it does look like a bruise, i see this every day at work and im the one usually sewing the pieces back together again, wish i could do the same with the spirit but through my own personal experiences im afraid that that is almost impossible once the spirit is broken it takes more than a life time to heal it….. well done my friend xx

In my line of work I came across dail y many reasons why he beat his wife but none would be any excuse for it . It’s a way of life that to the abuser it is in their mind normal . Beat up one , they leave and he gets another and so it goes on …a sad violent , troubled cycle.. your flower is alovely colour and very pretty David Janex

Beautiful work David

I agree with you David , Iam not taking this lightly , I saw many ruined lives through my work. And it saddens me deeply . Your poem sheds light on a topic many do not want to discuss.
women suffer awful torture . thank you David Jane

So true … fear , anger , violence .. there all taught and learnt behaviours , but people can better themselves if they wish too and some do , some keep going around and around until they finally get the lesson put before them .
As for me …. i dont believe anything i have experienced in my life has been in vain , simply because ive come away from each situation having learnt something , and that has many years later enabled me to be of some help to others in some way .
Im 36 yrs old and a single mum to 6 beautiful boys , i am so truly blessed in every way and thankful for everything i have encountered in my life good or bad , because one way or other it has made me a stronger person …. life is a fabulous gift and i couldnt ask for more !
Keep up the brilliant work David its always wonderful and a true pleasure to be able to share .
xoxox :0)

Wouldn’t that be awesome. Often they come from abusive homes and don’t know how to treat someone with care and respect. I know of one young man , who is only 19 , and as a child his father bullied him , now this kid is a bully. when I looked further into it , all the male line were , bullied so the kid thinks that is acceptable.
I am helping him now. He has so much potential. I won’t let him down.

Yes, role models…...fathers you would hope, but if they are abusive to their wives …the children are taught abuse is ok. so we have to go further afield , schools, the community like you say.
different cultural beliefs is a factor as well. The community doesn’t look after each other the way t used to when I was a kid. The community was like family . You are right David , we can’t sit back . Jane x

Most FANTASTIC photo David..
Great writing… emotional…
I wish violence never be no where …
I wish there was a real way to prevent it from occurs.
A difficult subject.

such a beautiful capture does not deserve words of sorrow.
i have experienced beating from a boyfriend, and thankfully left that scene
well written David

Fantastic work!!!1

A sad topic but one that needs to be addressed,well done David as always very thoughtfully written x

Instant fave of an image David, and an issue well addressed!

I hope so too, we all make our own choices in the end.

The DOF effect works so well here David, superb colour.

Outstanding colour and clarity

Yes I did :)

Stunning capture David , well done !

wow whata lovely flower and shot

nice DOF…I love that you chose to focus on the closed bud…such an interesting shot and such a beautiful color!

Great writing again David- and a stunning flower- beautiful!!!

Great image and thanks for posting this. There are many of us who may have been a victim to this social scourge …... older than history itself.

Some facts:

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,926135,00.html

Your writing makes me sad and sick at heart for the couples involved in such abusive behavior, especially the recipient of the behavior. I know it needs to stop..and as repentant as the abuser may be, he/she needs help, and the victim needs a safe haven. I’m so fortunate to be married to a man of integrity who is gentle and kind to me, even when I act badly.

Wonderful focus, David, and the flower is beautiful.

Your right in your views and feelings Linda we need to stand up an say stop this an my small poems is one way to help I hope maybe someone will read this an will get it! Glad it moved you my friend and I am also glad you have someone who allows you to be you!
See ya

extraordinary ! .. such wonderous details, and the colour ! wow ! .... I am supposed to be proofing a clients shoot from today .. and yet I feel compelled to go through and read all of your poems ! : )

Exellent work, beautiful picture and very powerful writing.

I like the submission !

There is always a price attached to life and its experiences. We learn that through reflection ….. by facing our respective guilts . BIG or small ….... accepting our faults and moving on as better people… better human beings!

WEll done….

~Ari

beautiful flower and a beautifully written, sad poem.
It really got me thinking :)

Your insight into peoples lives is amazing. Why do some men do it? Anger? fear? Insecurity in their own lives? I’m not sure that these sort of men ever really regret what they have done. But your poem is very moving.

Well some do and to them I say congrats to you on your daily struggle.
And to the struggling I say keep trying you will find the path one day.
And to the lost I say there is a path!
And to the ones who don’t believe I say there is hope! I say look inside yourself for the strength to give a hand!
And maybe we can find away to show other men who are loss how to find away.
Thats what I think my friend never give up!

Indeed – never give up. But some men will never find the strength and therefore never feel the remorse as expressed in your poem.
Your flower mirrors the poem so well. It is closed, keeping its secrets inside, Brilliant!

WOW, so much detail and the colors are so good!! Wonderful composition!! Very well done.
Brendan

Lovely photo ! :-) Emotional subject!!!

Okee Dookee :-)

thank you my sweet friend for just being you.

WOW!!!!!!!!!! Amazing shot!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can see so lots of layers – sharp shot!!!

Thanks David. xxx

Love the title on your pieces…really beautiful shots of flowers…cheers j

I hadn’t read the poem…just did…kudos to you David, your a lovely soul…