Women are Men and Men are Women
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? This may seem to be the case when we are living in linearity with an illusory divide that is the separation between the two genders of humanity. But let’s look at why this statement is lacking a quantum perspective.
The Healing of the Female/Male Painbody
I feel like I was born into this world with a female painbody (for those of you who are not familiar with the word ‘painbody’ — a word coined by Eckhart Tolle — I am referring to the collective emotion/pain of being a woman).
The frustration of feeling equal in all but strength to a man can be overwhelming when faced with situations of unequal pay, if you are female, not being taken seriously with your political or even general views, etc.
I have to say that we are living in a day and age where the divide between men and women and the issue of inequality is monumentally better than just even one generation ago, let alone 300 years ago. But there is still work to be done. And in fact, it is such a simple thing that we need to do — to address inequality — that I have all confidence and hope that this generation will be the ones to effect change.
Reconciling the History of Pain
The collective ‘painbody’ of the female goes way back.
As you can imagine, we are talking about biblical times where women were practically written out of the bible or if they did make an appearance they were usually whores or harlots; the witch burning crusades of the Spanish Inquisition; the basic stripping down of the divine feminine and subjugating her to a life of being barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.
During my lifetime, I have pondered these many harsh historical tales and it has made me feel quite angry about being a woman.
I Want to be a Man
For most of my life I always wanted to be a man, this would have seemed to solve a lot of my frustrations. Until I had my recent epiphany that has made me see this from a completely new perspective.
And hooray for this new revelation because now I can say with confidence ‘I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!’.
Blood, Sweat and Tears…Literally
I woke up last week and had started my period. I ambled downstairs and sat on the couch while I had my first cup of the morning and tried to wake up.
After just sitting there for about an hour I burst into tears. A mixture of feelings had overcome me and I wasn’t too sure about the outburst. So I thought to myself it’s just PMS and I am in pain so ergo the tears.
This made me feel even more frustrated and the crying didn’t stop. My dear husband came and sat with me during the outburst and offered consolation. I then asked him if he minded me ‘spilling my guts’ to him in an attempt to purge myself of what I was feeling. He agreed and the deluge began.
Frustration and Compassion
It started with me telling him my frustrations over how my period made me feel – sore, dirty, uncomfortable and, worst of all, judged.
I let it out that I was frustrated about how most women are judged or perceived as being a little ‘mental’ when they are menstruating. I verbalized the injustice in this as your body does go crazy and it is mostly out of your control.
Perhaps, some men just don’t get the fact that your body is being stormed with hormones and you don’t know your arse from your elbow. The key to this is empathy – compassion. When you don’t understand something, don’t judge it – just let it be and show compassion. That’s all, it’s very simple. Support and compassion.
No Stopping Me Now
The tears, however, did not abate.
I had just read a chapter in a book the night before that stated that women who have sex out of a ‘sins of the flesh’ or in lustful way have pain during childbirth.
Now I have heard of orgasmic childbirths and I have no quarrel with this statement as, perhaps, children who are conceived through the purest of intentions and love may very well be born differently – turning pain into ecstasy.
But my female painbody sprung into action!
What about all the men who have lustful ‘sins of the flesh’ type sex?
What is the pain that they are to bear?
A man is even guaranteed an orgasm if conception has taken place, where the woman is not guaranteed anything – how unfair!
Why must a woman take on the misgivings of these combined activities?
Utter frustration was gripping me as I tackled this concept. I was back in the throngs of the painbody.
Collapse and then Rebuild
Whilst my husband took a break from the festivities of the couch, I sat sobbing into my tissue.
As I was in this moment I felt arms around me. Whether they were the arms of my guides, angels or higher self, they were so comforting.
Then I heard a whisper in my ear:
“Now what if you were a man in your previous life and all these men who ‘don’t get women’ were actually women themselves in past life experiences – you have incarnated here on this earth plane and you have forgotten all past life experiences”.
Now I do know this concept that we have had numerous past lives and the likelihood of having experienced various different lives in various different genders makes sense.
No More Duality, Thank You!
Then the penny dropped (and along with it a lot of frustration): All men in this current lifetime have been women, have given birth, have probably been raped or abused, have been put down, have suffered extremities and loss.
All women in this current lifetime have been soldiers and/or warriors, have done hard labour, have perhaps been abusers, have suffered bloodshed and loss just like anyone. We are all one and the same! Duh.
Most have just forgotten.
The voice then whispered again in my ear, “Now say the opposite”. I wondered what the voice meant and then I realized that I had been repeatedly sobbing into my tissue ‘I hate being a woman!’…I tried it, ‘I love being a woman!’ I felt a great sense of relief and sincerity when I voiced this.
So, in figuring that one out I sat there – in silence. So what is the solution. This makes me feel a bit better but it still doesn’t solve everything.
Speaking Trinity with an Angel
Then I remembered something that Archangel Metatron had told me in one of my dowsing sessions. He said that we need to redefine the trinity as love, healing coupled with compassion and this will lead us to mastery.
The Conclusion and New Beginnings
My conclusion is that through the love of each other, crossing every divide – be it gender or race, religion or political view – we will allow ourselves to empathize with each other and to have compassion.
When we can walk alongside each other and lift each other up and offer support when and where it is needed, we will be masters.
When gender is no longer an issue and the problems that either gender is facing in the NOW is met with compassion and understanding, we will be equal. Because we know, deep down inside what it feels like to be both man or woman.
When you buy into the illusion of separation, this leads to fear, misery and frustration. See past the illusion of gender and you are just the I AM.
Just love who you are now.
Be grateful for who you are now.
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