I Charissa May Borroff truly believe my illness has been a blessing in disguise. Because the only thing that can follow is self healing. I was suprised when I started taking perscription pain killers for chronic pain related to endometriosis, how much pain I could still feel. From that point my life went down hill. After floating in painful apathy for a few years I felt like I needed more help than a perscription. This is when my journey started; when I new I couldn’t spend the rest of my life feeling helpless. I was ready to try almost any complimentary therapy I could lay my hands on. I did find the right therapy for me and I was suprised that when my pain levels began to drop, that wasn’t the end of my troubles because the pain had tortured my nerves for so long. I was suprised to notice a direct relationship with my feelings and my pain. I knew I had to actively do something my self for the sake of my health. When I feel fine and I stop making the effort, all my work comes undone. I didn’t ever want to be ill ever again.This isn’t an easy jounrney and there is always work to be done but it is better than going back to illness.

My definition of pain is tortured nerves that deprive health and happiness e.g backache, depression, stress, tinnitus. There is a physical pain and mental pain that can be brought about to anyone at anytime by anything. I offer these suggestions for you to embrace and explore a journey from the killer storm to a sea of tranquility… … I hope you don’t mind my sense of humour inbedded in here as well xxc;

1. ANIMAL RESCUE

Sometimes it’s easy to forget we have animal bodies. We are omnivorous mammals with a wild heritage. We must rescue our animal bodies as if we are rescuing an wild injured creature. It’s so importanat to get the right medical treatment and keep up with regular health checks and appropriate medication. Crank up a regime of eating a natural unprocessed and balanced diet. You wouldn’t let a rescue animal miss breakfast and then wait until 5pm to hand it a load of lardy fatty stodge crammed with sugar, salt, caffine, preservatives, colourings, MSG and stimulants ( It just agitates and stalls the body’s natural healing process) Make sure there is plenty of fresh water to refresh your body’s constant need of this magical life giving substance. The area of the brain that deals with thirst is the same area that deals with pain. It’s good to think of ourselves as walking millponds full of water. We are ourselves a habitat for single celled life forms that depend on water. A regular fresh supply will ward off stagnation and keep all the little friendly microbes inside us healthy. Ensure there is plenty of rest to allow the body to concentrate on recovery. Keep clean and well groomed. Start a sensible reintroduction programme back into the wild once healthy and strong.

2. CESSATION

e.g light from darkness, dispelling pollutants, awakening, flourishing, thriving free from hinderment of the negative thoughts that pain has conditioned in you. Address the experience of liberation from afflictions.
Concentrate on the possibility that you can stop your suffering. Cultivate your understanding of the sensation of halting suffering in you. This desire can activate this change. Have you had enough of the way pain bullies you? Imagine the power of your thought clearing away your pain. Like the sound of it? Fancy a try? There’s no harm in trying is there!

3. IDENTIFYING HARMFUL NEGATIVITY (this is a biggy)

e.g. Propaganda, crappy trivial media, overwhelmed by harmful emotions like anger, fear, guilt, hopelessness and resentment, busy roads, Places with bad atmosphere’s, letting negative thoughts of your own hurt you, reliving painful memories, destructive thoughts like telling yourself that you are OK and that don’t need medication when you do need it. Or self criticism. Be observant, identify harmful negativity and take control of your negative situations in a positive way!

“Toxic” people can either be unaware or very aware of what they do. None the less it has the same results and can give you setback after setback energy wise. Leaving you feeling drained and exhausted. Toxic people have burdens too and will feel insecure with themselves. But they are dealing with their pain in an unhealthy negative way. They may be unaware that their ego has inflated after some traumatic event. A natural response but unhealthy if the ego has been aloud to run riot and cause nuisance. This will manifest as being more self centered than most and possibly have over narcissistic qualities. All that they touch will be dragged down with them or pushed down to give them a lift. They will probably have a few friends that get rundown and ill quite regularly. They will have limited self awareness or social awareness and may lack some compassion and respect for all living things. A funny put down is a put down none the less and will have come from a deep insecurity. Jealousy is an admission of inferiority.

It is best to walk away if possible. Even if you are feeling relatively healthy, it makes no sense to expend time and energy with little or no payback or negative payback. Before you know it, you will be back you square one or worse. Don’t fool yourself that you can deal it over the long-term. Anger is very like pain in the way that it pops up to raise the alarm that harm has been done. It is also like pain in the way that it shouldn’t be lived with and should be acted upon to get some relief. So turn a negative into a positive by whatever means you can and take control of your destiny for the sake of your health.

If you value their friendship perhaps it could be worth making them aware that you are trying to heal and that you could really appreciate their support by being a better listener or being more tactful and for their benefit, they need you to point out some unhelpful behavior of theirs. I’d feel awful if someone thought I was doing anything to offensive and I’d really appreciate being told so that I could make it up in some way. Things may not be what they seem. Use your strong feelings positively to raise awareness. By communicating your feelings you may be doing them a favor by holding up a mirror to them and may strengthen your relationship and dissipate any destructive resentment.

However this can be a very exhausting thing to do and even the thought of this could be harrowing to deal with when you have a longterm illness and so will have very little energy. If that is the case remember that you are the one with an illness, they have given you set backs, and that is a reasonable enough reason to walk away!

If everyone had the strength to walk away they would have to face what they are avoiding with their stirring and web weaving.

Most importantly you have to deal with these people in a way that makes you feel most comfortable. To end up feeling drained you have infact let go of your much needed energy. So Change the way you deal with things to maintain your feeling of lightness. If that is ignoring them and singing Gloria Gaynor’s I Will Survive then so be it. so be it. You can imagine that you are being protected by that “ready break” glow or make a positive affirmation in your mind that you deserve love and respect. You could imagine Kim and Aggie appalled by the foulness that comes out of their mouth as they scrub away their heavy dark atmosphere with lemon juice and elbow grease! Imagine Tinkerbell is firing fairy dust at the offending person. Use your imagination You could even imagine turning your anger into a healing beam of light from the pit of your stomach that will lighten them up and cleanse any darkness from them. Or perhaps play a sort of Bingo and use your sense of humour. As you cross off all of their known bad character traits that normally get you down give yourself a treat when you get a full house! Try carrying small symbolic keep sakes to remind you that you are now stronger and are protecting yourself actively but peacefully. Like Tourmaline or obsidion to ward off negativity. You could even create your own protective charms and talismans.

With a bit of research you’ll find that there are many symbolic items and materials that are used for these very purposes. If they show no signs of letting up and you feel injustice, send out the wish that they get back everything they deserve for hurting you. so they get back what they’ve sent out. As long as you are a kind person this is the best message to shout out loud because you haven’t wished them anymore harm than they have already done themselves (which is enough). This makes sure that nothing harmful comes back to you and an order for their come uppence has been made. They will get the message.

All of the below will help healing and self development greatly and help you to learn how to protect yourself and also trust in yourself to find new ways to cope with negativity.

4. RELAXATION!,

5. RESPECT FOR ONESELF

6. RESPECT FOR ALL LIVING THINGS

e.g. all sentient things naturally seek happiness and want to be free of suffering. Look after your environment. When you have the energy , support causes in your locality and trust that when everyone does this it makes the whole world a better place. Make sure you support your loved ones in a way to have as happy a life as possible. Take pride in the support and help that you give out. Be tactful and kind. A little goes a long way and back to you. It’s making helpful allies really. I’ll scratch your back you scratch mine. Cultivating compassion through kind hearted altruism renews the determnation to end suffering and also generates helpful friends! a little thought that If someone has given you the time and effort of friendship let them know how good that is. Don’t take liberties. Don’t gossip someone’s secrets they’ve entrusted in you. No one exists on the planet for you to gain petty fun at their expense. To treat someone with little respect is demeaning to both parties. They might not let on what you’re doing to them but they will think you’re stupid and of limited awareness. You may not be able to help yourself; it might be a hard habit to break especially if no one is telling you so you think you are getting away with it. But you have to respect that some people may have better observation skills than you. Therefore you get less respect back. Respect that although you may not be able to see it. Everyone has a cross to bear of some form. It may not be as great a burden as yours. Burdens are relative and that someone could feel equally as overwhelmed as you. You may not see their burden but you shouldn’t pile more burden energy wise onto someone by taking liberties because you think they look fine to you. Or shouldn’t make them feel bad because they haven’t got it as hard as you. You will get out of life what you put in. If you give good people you’re best they’ll give you their best! " My religion is very simple; my religion is kindness" – the Dalai Lama

7. PUSHING ONESELF

8. TRUSTING ONESELF

9. CONNECTING WITH NATURE

10. CONNECTING WITH POSITIVITY
    e.g. Lightness, Love, colours, comedy, Celtic Harp music, what makes you really happy? feeling lucky, enjoying coincidence, gratefulness for all the plusses in life, playfulness, enjoying natural beauty, seeing the real magic of life, beautiful manmade structures, great celebrations, good memories, incredibly fabulous creative works, objects with positive associations, Anthemic belters of songs, Favourite TV themes, The power of positive words, affirmations, beautiful scents that trigger good memories and positive associations, good people, lovely pets, beautiful locations. Remember the good times. Re-live the good times. …

11. POSITIVE SYMBOLIC MEANING

12. POSITIVE SYMBOLIC ACTIONS e.g. Planting seeds, walking up hills and mountains, wishes, prayers, spells, rituals, dances, cooking, banquets, parties, toasts, shopping, Exercise, running, cycling, Martial arts, Yoga, gigs, performance, Treated with respect and prepared for with respect can make effective and amplify the power of your intentions to profoundly heal, gain inspiration and focus on enhancing healing aspects of your life. Paint dramatically on a canvas and really let rip. Sing along to an anthem like Siouxsie Sioux’s Swan. Go out on the town with friends, dance in a circle and pass a really groovy hat or a feather bower round. The one with the hat dances in the middle to make a healing positive circle of friends celebrate what got you all together or what keeps you together. Use your imagination, the more personal your action the more healing energy it will have. Celebrate all of your milestones and changes in your life with symbolic actions. Use props with positive symbolic meaning. Use atmospheric lighting perhaps with coloured light bulbs, fairy lights, candles or a full moon, and set the scene with nice cushions and blankets. Get into costume and get dressed up to help your mindset get in the healing zone.

13. CONSERVING ENERGY (not to be overlooked)

14. RECORDING YOUR PROGRESS

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