There’s some who are just looking for fun- these people are not looking for attachment in any way. I am (of course) talking about men and women here. Men are not alone in their quest to find something better than what they already have or haven’t got. But I can only tell you what I know and what I have experienced.
So here’s the story of a man who I met twice.
Intense, electric, sensual are three words that come to mind. He was the kind of man I could see myself spending time with. There wasn’t just that electricity that you always hope for – there was some shared interests that seemed to fit. Learning not to rush in like a bull in a china shop has always been one of my biggest challenges. But he seemed ok, and how do you know if you don’t keep looking?
Yes, alright, I HAVE been dying my hair blonde for many years!
Ok, back to reality…. How was I to know that he was going to be ‘The Elusive One’.
So it starts well, with coffee on the beach. Talking about what we were looking for in a relationship. Holding hands and eventually kissing, before taking a long walk on the beach. What started at 10am seemed to flash past and as night time fell upon us a decision was made to buy fish and chips and return to the beach.
It seemed it wasn’t just me who was enjoying themselves.
As we parted ways for the night we discussed seeing each other again. Interestingly the next day this guy made contact and chatted telling me what a wonderful date it had been and how he was looking forward to catching up again soon. I agreed, I thought it had been an outstanding date. On the morning of the third day after our meeting I tried to send a message to this guy but his profile was gone from the site he made contact on! My suspicious mind had already started to work overtime on this one! I wasn’t in a panic though, I rarely sweat about these kind of things. Besides I could always contact him by phone if I really wanted to.
Its pretty cut and dry. it’s the risk you take when you internet date. I found myself thinking….if you don’t like me, or you realise you shouldn’t be chasing other girls around because you have a loving wife at home then fess up!!
This is where the interesting part starts.
Over a week goes by I decide that I’d give it one more ‘go’. I send a message from my phone to his asking had I done anything wrong? I get a phone call saying how he had been sending text messages to a number that wasn’t me (gosh I wondered who the hell that could be, was it his cleaning lady, was it his best friend’s, auntie‘s maid‘s cousin – how embarrassing – maybe he was just lying about that too?)…how sorry he was….how he’d like to meet for another date. So I bought his excuse and invited him to come to my place saying that I’d cook dinner.
We parted ways after a very pleasant evening together and then the cycle of not talking began again. Since then a profile or two has popped up here and there with the same photo but different names but with his photo saying that his profile has viewed mine. Only to find that a day or so later the profile has been deleted. It seems to be a pattern he’s got going. I wonder how many fall into his trap?
Elusive or just outright rude?
An Australian Dating Memoir.