This is a precious photo. My grandmother is smiling, which had been a rare occurrence since she had suffered a debilitating stroke 2 years previously. This would have been the final time Ethan would see her. My granddad’s expression is fantastic. Two of the greatest people I ever will know, and my son will never have had the chance to know them. Sometimes things just suck! Nonetheless, I would not take any amount of money for this one.
Hey Mr. B, a priceless moment in time…lovely capture…great expressions all around. Your grandparents must be amazing. It’s a shame Ethan doesn’t see them. =) XO
Rusty your g-parents, correct? Therefore, Ethan’s great g-parents…four generations alive at this point in time. ThIS is GREAT. Ethan will know by this picture and your writes how much love and richness comes from his father’s bloodline of family. Regardless of Ashley wanting to push you and your family away, she cannot. You WILL ALWAYS BE ETHAN’S FATHER. Blood of your blood.
Putting together the pictures and writes will do more for your son than you can ever imagine. He will notice (whether he voices or not) your time and efforts. Just one bit of advice…take it or leave it.
Don’t write so much of your dislike for Ashley (I’m sure he hears her dislike of you) but just write of your love and your families love for him (EThan) no mistake he will never feel from you anything but the pure message of His Father’s Love and His Father’s Family’s Love [which is his (Ethan’s) FAMILY by all rights.] Perhaps even write about the feelings Ashley stirred in you once you realized she intended you not to be in Ethan’s life. Put it as a separate write, get it all out of you, and make it more of a special write for him to understand, it is not him (Ethan). It is her use of him as a shield or weapon to use against you and your family…but remember you are walking a fine line since as you wrote yesterday “this is his mom”. You do not want to confuse him…just my opinion take it or leave it.
You know BEST you’re living it…sometimes you need to take a break and look at through other eyes. Again… YOU KNOW MORE THAN I DO JUST A SPECTATOR.
Peace to you always, Rusty. You’re a good friend to stick up for me when someone was being VERY MEAN TO ME and Threatening me…I appreciate your friendship. Just want to help you…and you stated something yesterday about tired and not having any idea of what will happen…you must keep positive…it is too important. Just don’t let negative cloud in and steal your joy. A simple song…for friends of all ages… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRJEri5kinI
I appreciate the advice. Allow me to say that I made a deal with Ashley, prior to our divorce, that we would never speak of one another negatively in front of Ethan. Any piece that includes negativity about Ashley, will either be changed a bit, when the time comes, or is not intended for Ethan to see. I have a number of poems about Ashley, which are some what less than nice and probably a journal entry or two, also. I will either elide those altogether, or depending on his age, let him see them but make it clear that these are MY feelings. I will get rid of any comment attached to the photos and will probably do so rather quickly. As for my writings, when he’s 18, I see no reason for him not to see them, if he runs across them. But, I certainly will not be showing them to him. If he is 15, that is another story; I will make them private and may do so anyway.
At any rate, you must know that I am not about to break my promise, whatever she has done. I grew up in a similar situation, with parents going back and forth about one another, until at 16 or so, I finally began carrying each of their numbers in my wallet. The next time one of them said something negative about the other/ and both eventually did/ I gave them the number and said, “If it is really important for you to say this to Mom/Dad, here is his/her number. Call and tell them, I don’t want to fucking hear it anymore! Got it?” I’ll not have him live through that. Just so you know, I have no intention of exposing Ethan to my feelings for Ashley. I will answer questions for him, but in a judicious fashion, not necessarily in the way in which I have expressed them in various plays. Thanks again, xo Rusty
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this is a very special image indeed !
Hey lady, indeed. I love it! Aren’t scanners fantastic? xo, Rusty
– Rusty Gentry
Hey Mr. B, a priceless moment in time…lovely capture…great expressions all around. Your grandparents must be amazing. It’s a shame Ethan doesn’t see them. =) XO
There is something very precious about moments of old people with very children and babies. You are fortunate to have a photo. xx
great affection!
Rusty your g-parents, correct? Therefore, Ethan’s great g-parents…four generations alive at this point in time. ThIS is GREAT. Ethan will know by this picture and your writes how much love and richness comes from his father’s bloodline of family. Regardless of Ashley wanting to push you and your family away, she cannot. You WILL ALWAYS BE ETHAN’S FATHER. Blood of your blood.
Putting together the pictures and writes will do more for your son than you can ever imagine. He will notice (whether he voices or not) your time and efforts.
Just one bit of advice…take it or leave it.
Don’t write so much of your dislike for Ashley (I’m sure he hears her dislike of you) but just write of your love and your families love for him (EThan) no mistake he will never feel from you anything but the pure message of His Father’s Love and His Father’s Family’s Love [which is his (Ethan’s) FAMILY by all rights.]
Perhaps even write about the feelings Ashley stirred in you once you realized she intended you not to be in Ethan’s life. Put it as a separate write, get it all out of you, and make it more of a special write for him to understand, it is not him (Ethan). It is her use of him as a shield or weapon to use against you and your family…but remember you are walking a fine line since as you wrote yesterday “this is his mom”. You do not want to confuse him…just my opinion take it or leave it.
You know BEST you’re living it…sometimes you need to take a break and look at through other eyes. Again… YOU KNOW MORE THAN I DO JUST A SPECTATOR.
Peace to you always, Rusty.
You’re a good friend to stick up for me when someone was being VERY MEAN TO ME and Threatening me…I appreciate your friendship.
Just want to help you…and you stated something yesterday about tired and not having any idea of what will happen…you must keep positive…it is too important. Just don’t let negative cloud in and steal your joy.
A simple song…for friends of all ages…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRJEri5kinI
I appreciate the advice. Allow me to say that I made a deal with Ashley, prior to our divorce, that we would never speak of one another negatively in front of Ethan. Any piece that includes negativity about Ashley, will either be changed a bit, when the time comes, or is not intended for Ethan to see. I have a number of poems about Ashley, which are some what less than nice and probably a journal entry or two, also. I will either elide those altogether, or depending on his age, let him see them but make it clear that these are MY feelings. I will get rid of any comment attached to the photos and will probably do so rather quickly. As for my writings, when he’s 18, I see no reason for him not to see them, if he runs across them. But, I certainly will not be showing them to him. If he is 15, that is another story; I will make them private and may do so anyway.
At any rate, you must know that I am not about to break my promise, whatever she has done. I grew up in a similar situation, with parents going back and forth about one another, until at 16 or so, I finally began carrying each of their numbers in my wallet. The next time one of them said something negative about the other/ and both eventually did/ I gave them the number and said, “If it is really important for you to say this to Mom/Dad, here is his/her number. Call and tell them, I don’t want to fucking hear it anymore! Got it?” I’ll not have him live through that.
Just so you know, I have no intention of exposing Ethan to my feelings for Ashley. I will answer questions for him, but in a judicious fashion, not necessarily in the way in which I have expressed them in various plays. Thanks again, xo Rusty
– Rusty Gentry