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Becpuss

Becpuss

Rochdale, United Kingdom

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I need to rant, hope you don't mind!

There’s something bugging me and I want to put the record straight.

(Note: This is not based on fellow Redbubblers, you guys are awesome, I just need to rant)

Just because I don’t enjoy wearing clothes I’m uncomfortable in, shoes that make me want to amputate my toes and drinking so much I can’t remember falling down the stairs, doesn’t mean I don’t have fun. It’s just a different kind of fun.

The fact is I would much rather spend my free time at home (or my other home) with my husband and the three closest friends I have. I bet we have just as much fun as anyone enjoying a night out, only we’re warm, comfy and not being judged by everyone else. Plus when the hour is late and it’s time to sleep, there is the bonus of not having to wait for taxis and spend a fortune just to get to bed.

I use my leisure time exercising my imagination, having a laugh, occasionally shooting some Tequila (you know just to stay in character), rolling funny shaped dice, killing mythical beasts, reading comics about characters who have far more interesting lives and experiencing the closest thing to being a superhero as I’m ever going to get. I in no way feel I’m missing out on everything else.

To be told “you want to get out more” is rude and I say “No I don’t”. And why would I? ‘Out’ is full of people I don’t know, probably won’t like and have very little in common with. So what if I live in my imagination, what’s so great about the reality outside my front door?

Don’t get me wrong, once a year around Christmas I will have a go, I’ll put on my ‘socially acceptable’ going clothes and shoes and try and have that sort of fun. And yes there are moments I enjoy, but the majority of the time it’s a façade, I’m actually waiting until its late enough to go home without appearing a party pooper. Honestly I’m just not comfortable in that situation.

I understand people’s reactions; it can be difficult for me in social situations not of my choosing, everyone sharing stories of what they’ve been up to, everyone laughing about what they got up to at the weekend. And to be completely honest it can get a little lonely in those moments, but I try, I join as best as I can. Unfortunately me turning round with “my husband joined the evil group of magicians and quite frankly I want him off the team” tends to cause a contagious case of frowning all around.

When it comes to my turn to share, it is likely to involve stories about a world nobody else understands. Comics, gaming, long since cancelled sci-fi shows, amongst the subjects I enthuse about. What I am grateful for is those moments when people make an effort to engage me in my topics, and I thank you. Yes I will go a little overboard, just a tad, because I have so much to share and I can only hope you learn a little something about who I am.

I spent my teenage years not knowing where I belonged, it wasn’t fun and it involved a lot of turmoil. Then I met my husband and his friends and I finally felt like I was home. For 14 years I have had three friends and my husband as a constant, to share my loves, interests and family with and they are all I need.

So if you find me sitting in a the corner reading a graphic novel, or jumping up and down in excitement about a comic hero coming to the big screen. I ask you not to feel sorry for me, or assume I am in some way missing out on a life. I have a happy life full of love and friendship. We all have common interests and I make an effort to engage you in these, so if I go a little left of target, smile, accept that it makes me happy and be my friend.

Plus, it would be boring if we were all the same.

Comments

  • Octochimp Designs
    Octochimp Designsover 3 years ago

    I don’t think that even counts as a rant. Rants are supposed to be all flailing and emotive, changing direct quickly and regularly, spilling out onto the page. The above is sensible, well structured and not really rant-like at all… but yes there are plenty of people in this world who cannot understand anything outside of their own little zone. I’ve seen these people on both sides of the gaming table, but in any case their opinion is not important.

  • Tbh I had to tone the rant down when I realised there was a possibility that the people to which I am referring to may some how stubble upon it and take offense. Unfortunately I still have to work with them, unless I win the lottery tonight, which is highly improbable. So I turned it round a little, but I’m sure you can use your awesomeness to imagine my original rant which my hubbie took the brunt of on my return from work, it was definitely flailing and emotive ;)

    – Becpuss

  • Octochimp Designs
    Octochimp Designsover 3 years ago

    oh good. Well I’m glad to hear it. I do like a good rant (as you may have noticed). It’s very cathartic. And there is nothing I like more than a rant which incorporates so many of my favourite subjects. I’ll go back and read it again using my awesome imagination to fill in a great deal more vitriol and venom. I think I will enjoy this re-reading process. You don’t mind if I work a few extra orcs and trap-doors into the story for myself do you?

  • The more the better, and I’m quite partial to the odd dragon :D

    – Becpuss

  • Mel Preston
    Mel Prestonover 3 years ago

    As long as the dragon isn’t white aye? ;)

    Great rant Becc, and all well written and polite – I agree not even that much of a rant – far too collected and sensible :)

    I recognise a lot of that up there ^. Outside of my social circle I just don’t open up, as the reactions pretty predictable. For me I don’t want tolerance – a condescending agreement to tolerate my geekery – I want acceptance. We are all different and it’s these differences that make it all so interesting – I want to be surrounded by people with diverse interests and opinions, so I can be challenged, learn and share. :)

    Failing that, come the zombie apocalypse it’ll just be us geeks that are well prepared enough to survive and build a better world! :D

  • No definitely no white dragons they’re more trouble than they are worth.

    Yep and I will point and laugh at the now walking dead people who laughed when I told them “you gotta have a zombie plan” then I’ll bash their heads in.

    – Becpuss

  • BYRON
    BYRONover 3 years ago

    Any chance that you might be Aspie?

  • Wow a real sensitive approach you got going on there. My mental health has nothing to do with the point I’m making.

    I’m more than capable of functioning as ‘expected’ within the society I have to interact with, my point is why should I have? if I want to share something about my favourite comic book hero, I should be able to do that without snide people making remarks because they don’t get it. Is that really to much to ask?

    – Becpuss

  • BYRON
    BYRONover 3 years ago

    I am only asking because I am Autistic / Aspergers … and you sound like me, and many others.

    We often ask the same questions about why is it not acceptable for us to be how we are, to like the things we like doing, and we hate it when people tell us how we should be … “you will love it if you try it” is just soooo condescending. Its like they think we are too stupid to even know what we like.

    So please don’t be offended at my question… I was not making any judgements, just asking a question.

  • My sincere apologies, you may have noticed I’m a little wound up and tired of trying to conform. I slap my hand and give myself a good telling off for assuming you were being nasty.

    Unfortunately in my experience people seem to think they can be nasty because of the anonymity the internet provides. I am pleased you proved me wrong.

    And I completely agree with your reply, once again sorry :D

    – Becpuss

  • BYRON
    BYRONover 3 years ago

    aaaah, you may well have been right… aspergers people can be a little… direct. We don’t have the best understanding of social conventions, and as a result are often upsetting people when we never actually meant to.

    It happens to me a lot.

    But I am aware of that so I do try not to seem to abrasive.

    I am a staunch advocate of online manners, I don’t believe that because we have anonymity that we are allowed to behave like animals.

  • Here Here! :D

    – Becpuss

  • Octochimp Designs
    Octochimp Designsover 3 years ago

    hahaha, zombies! Yes I’ll be ready. I have read the very awesome book “The Zombie Survival Guide”. If you haven’t read it, go out now and get it. It’s awesome.