So, here my daughter is, married, and has been since January, but, she had run away from home last summer, for various odd reasons of her own.
She was picked up by the police and they arrested her for being incorrigible. Which I dispute, since incorrigibility is the act of getting in trouble time and time again, not just running away from home once! Nevertheless, that is what they arrested her for.
Nothing happened during all the time in between that arrest up until yesterday, and that arrest was at the beginning or middle of November, but now she and I have been summoned to meet with a probation officer who is going to charge me $50 and lay some consequences on her for her actions. No trial, no acknowledgement that she is now a married woman and I am no longer her legal guardian.
This is odd, as I don’t get child support for her because I am not her legal guardian in that respect, but I am still responsible for her according to the law ??? Then, since she is still eating my food, shouldn’t her father still also be responsible for helping pay for her care?
- sigh *
Oh, and for those sort of people who are now going to view me as mercenary, for thinking he should still be paying child support, there are two very important factors involved in this thinking that most are unaware of.
The first is that this man did his best to kill me or have me jailed for years, whilst trying to keep me from seeing our children, brain washing them against me, watching pornos in front of them, hooking them on drugs, and letting his new wife beat and abuse them in all sorts of ways .NOTHING has been done to him, but his daughter has been punished for having learned to live as he raised her to be, and then having a difficult time trying to learn to live the way I would have raised her to be.
The second is that I am chronically ill, which is part of the reason he got away with some of his shite. I can only work part time and so I make anywhere from $100 – $260.00 per month, before taxes are taken out. I owe $375.00 a month for rent! I have to pay court fees of $60 pre month for the probation officer.
I can’t get the medical treatments I need to help me get well enough that I could work more, because I have to pay the fees. If I don’t pay the fees I will go to jail. And the fees that need to be paid are because of the way he raised people, because of the false reports he made to police, etc.
So, I’ve spent most of my life now, all of my adult life, stuck in a Catch-22 situation where I can either choose to get well but then I’d go to jail or choose to not get well and then get fired from my job and probably still go to jail.
He could have raised our children better, he could have not made false reports, he could have not hired people to kill me (which he did, and I’m not kidding!), he could have chosen to get help for himself, to walk out of their lives, to dump his wife for someone less abusive (and most people would be, no matter how skanky!) but I had no choice except to walk away from my children or to stay and try to fight for them as best as I could with my limited physical and financial resources.
So, it’s not mercenary. It’s just being tired of the bullshite!
