Nothing creates intimacy more than the lucid articulation of feelings from one lover to another. They say action speaks louder than words yet nothing soothes the heart more than the declaration of feeling from the mouth of our beloved. True love is created through the stutter and imperfect attempt to place our feelings into words. The struggle to remain actively open in our expression of our inner terrain is to expose the rhythms of emotion, the shifts, vague dreams, sharpened desires, imperfect thoughts that make love flourish and grow from subtle and invisible to bold and profound. Infact it is only through the courage of sharing our inner journey with a lover that our hearts expand. Silence of withdrawal breeds contraction as the heart beats to a drum of emotional pain. Love is curious to know anothers inner mind and heart. Asking questions of another is perhaps the most perfect expression there is of love. A sharing of the delicate and insignificant thoughts heal the heart and make us feel that we are not alone. Speaking and sharing the nuance of our mind and having those words heard is salve to our souls and the beginning of connection.
Saying I Love You is just the beginning of the story. It is the sensitive robustness of communication that follows that is thrashed out and tested through time that is the true sign of enduring love. True love sees the other and will step up and fight for that love. Fighting to keep that flame bursting with light is the action and reflection of a love that comes from the inside out.
© Anthea Slade 2012
Written 25 April 2012
Saying I love you is just the beginning… was featured in LIVE LOVE DREAM on 16 June 2012
Recently watching a beautiful English Mini Series called Lark Rise to Candleford I was inspired to write some small thoughtful pieces on love and life :) This was my first one. Just thought I would share. It was a satisfying journey watching through the four series, the language was exquisite and the dialogue was intelligent, insightful, human and full of connection.