How to Increase Sexual Desire by amar b shrestha

For the young whose hormones are on the rampage, it might seem silly to think that getting sexually aroused could be a challenge. But, as youth fades away, the hormones are happy enough to lie back and take a long breather. Along with this, other problems come to the fore and one fine day, you realize that you are relieved when not called upon to play your part.In the process, one of life’s greatest (and healthiest) pleasures is yours no more. That’s a really sad situation to be in. Its time you took the bull by the horn. There are things that have been found to be effective in rekindling sexually dead lives. At the same time, there are some things you should avoid so as to succeed in your new mission to be truly alive once again.

Sex and Alcohol

In small amounts, alcohol facilitates socializing and sexual communication and thus has a positive impact on sexual arousal. In large quantities, getting an erection will be difficult for men, and both men and women may find it hard to experience orgasm. Chronic alcohol abuse results in erectile disorders in men and loss of sexual desire and difficulty experiencing orgasm in both men and women.
Conclusion – Go easy on the drinks and you’ll arouse and be aroused; drink too much and you’ll be wasting the nights.
Sex and Your Brain
The main thing that will increase sexual desire is the brain. Visual images and interpretation of sensual smells and voice tones are all controlled by the brain. In short, your brain has a mighty big role in turning you on. And you know that a healthy mind is only possible in a healthy body, so eat well, exercise regularly, and commit yourself to a healthier lifestyle.
Conclusion: It’s time you heard the chirpings of birds in the early morning dawn. Its time you became more aware of what you are eating and how much you are exercising.
Sex Techniques
Oral sex like fellatio (performed on a male) and cunnilingus (performed on a female) are considered to be very intimate acts. For most women, clitoral stimulation is essential for orgasm; therefore therapists recommend cunnilingus as part of the sex act between couples. Many women can also reach orgasm with the help of a vibrator. For men, fellatio is close to being in heaven.
Conclusion: You got be bold and daring in the bedroom.
Sex and Props
Foreplay can include the use of props. Use food, such as whipped cream or chocolate on different parts of you and your partner’s body to excite each other. Make use of fabrics that are sensuous against the skin, eg. silk, satin, velvet and fur.
Conclusion: Use your imagination and ensure availability of suitable props beforehand.
7 Tips to Arouse Interest
1. Be clean and well groomed.
2. Smile a lot and be polite and courteous
3. Be confident and listen to what s/he has to say.
4. Express your interest (call, sms, email, etc.)
5. Make your romantics intentions clear and don’t talk about past lovers
6. Be ‘open and inviting’ (leaning forwards, leaving your arms open, etc)
7. Use light touches (brush some dust off of his/her shoulder, touch his/her sleeve lightly when making a point, etc)
7 Tips to Arouse Desire
1. Talk about your sexual likes and dislikes, and encourage your partner to tell you theirs
2. Discuss your sexual fantasies with your lover
3. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay
4. Experiment with new positions
5. Make use of sex toys
6. Watch a pornographic film together
7. Use liberal use of sexual (dirty) words during intercourse

Sexual Arousal Problems in Women

Sexual arousal is manifested as increased vaginal lubrication and blood flow to the genitals, especially the labia, clitoris and vagina. A reduced amount of vaginal lubrication is a symptom of decreased sexual arousal in women. At this time, there are no approved drug treatments for low sexual desire. However:

• If menopause is the cause, then hormone replacement can help.
• Lubricating creams are useful for all women.
• Behavioral therapy is another way to help increase sexual arousal.
• Studies indicate that testosterone can increase sexual desire in women where the cause is due to the surgical removal of their ovaries. But, continual treatment with testosterone has side effects and may lead to development of masculine characteristics.
• In some women, early childhood trauma may interfere with sexual function. Here, as well as in sexual abuse cases, psychotherapy can help.
Note: In men, it is usually erectile dysfunction (ED) that is the root of the cause for diminished libido (sexual desire). ED can occur due to a variety of reasons, eg. age, trauma, side effect of drugs like anti depressants and anti hypertensives, serious relationship problems with partner or even due to latent homosexuality tendencies.