My son is dead
how can that be?
He made a stupid but fatal mistake
and I was not there to help.
He didn’t want to embarrass me, or his mum
he didn’t want to hurt us.
But he did.
My son is dead
how can that be?
He made a stupid but fatal mistake
and I was not there to help.
He didn’t want to embarrass me, or his mum
he didn’t want to hurt us.
But he did.
flame7
I’m so very truly sorry.
Mark Allen:
Thank you Kelly
Jacqueline Ison
I am so very sorry for your pain. May your friends give you comfort and God give you peace. I am sending prayers and hugs your way.
Mark Allen:
Thank you Jacqueline.
Wendi Donaldson
The pain never leaves you. He didn’t mean to hurt you ~ but you know that. Doesn’t help, I’m sure. Thoughts are with you and the family, Mark!
Mark Allen:
Oh I know he didn’t mean to hurt me and my wife. Wendi, I attend a group called “The Compassionate Friends”. Everyone has lost a child, no matter what age. In this group we are free to talk about our loss, in the knowledge that everyone present has been there. My wife and I have gained much comfort and support. But your comment “The pain never leaves you” is so right. Some members of the group have lost a child, over 20 years ago, and their pain is as real today as it was then.
flame7
I have freinds mark who have lost both their sons. 14 years ago. One year appart. The boys were in the 30’s. They have never got over it. The pain between the two of them is indescribable. The blame, the guilt, the total sadness.
I have lived through this indirectly. May you get comfort where you need it. Thoughts and prayers. Kelly.
Mark Allen:
Kelly, it takes a strong marriage to get through the death of a child, no matter what age they were. Having two children die, must double, if not quadruple the stress. At ‘The Compassionate Friends’ we learn that if parents can take a mature and level headed attitude and not try to apportion blame – they will have some chance of staying together. But, if just after the death, one parent says ‘if only you had not …’ then the blame game starts.. ‘what me? what about you when you..’ and so on. It is of course just human nature to lash out, but for parents that do this, their marriage is almost doomed.
Mark Allen
Sorry Kelly, I was on a rant there, and I forgot to say “Thanks” for your comments.
flame7
That’s quite ok you are entitled to rant mark. And your words are certainly true.